What am I doing wrong?
My DS is 3 1/2. He is a total cling-on. He's not happy unless he's in physical contact with me. He is a terrible eater and sleeper. He's cranky, grumpy and antisocial. I've taken him to doctors, psychologists and paediatricians. They've all said he's sensitive with anxiety but otherwise normal. But how normal is it to not be hungry? Several times I've tried waiting for him to ask for food and drink. He can go for 10 hours before asking for a drink. And then still rejects food unless it's something familiar from his very limited diet.
Play dates are painful. He refuses to share toys and screams, often becoming violent. Then throws himself bodily on me - this is after spending a day or so begging for his friends. He refuses to even look at his father (we try to have at least 2 face-to-face visits a week). He cries and screams at every daycare drop off - 4 times a week. His teachers say he has improved but I'm not seeing it.
I'd like to think some of this is reaction to me leaving his father but realistically DS has never been a happy child/baby. Smiles were rare when he was an infant.
Anyone else out there have a grumpy spirited child? If so how do you cope? Do they improve or am I going to an alcoholic before he gets to school age? ( trying for humour there, but I am really struggling - my mother thinks there must be something wrong with DS and blames my ex for "bad blood". I'm even to the point where I'm starting to believe this)