I hope I don't burst into flame at the christening.
Last edited by Bongley; 13-04-2016 at 12:39.
I'm so relieved our zoned public is fab. As an atheist as well I don't know what I would have done if it wasn't. Probably moved to a different zone to access a better public. I would have felt like an imposter at the Catholic That's not a dig at you Bongley btw. I totally get wanting the best for your child and if this is what is best then it is.
I will preface this by saying I have zero experience or contact with any 'elite' private schools - there are very few of them around here, & I have never worked in one. But I am sensing a LOT of angst on here towards the elite schools, & I'm not sure why &where all that angst comes from. Perhaps those of you who are from melbourne/ sydney would have better insight as to why people dislike the elite schools so much.
I think a parents reasons for choosing a school are valid whatever they may be. My kids school is under 200 students - a small school is important to me. There is absolutely no tolerance for bullying/ great discipline - so I know my DD is in an environment where she feels safe and secure. And the curriculum and teachers are the absolute best. I personally dont actually care about her 'results', & I'm not even remotely thinking about uni or job prospects. I didnt choose a private school for good 'results', (as studies have shown, she would likely have the same results in a public school) - I'm thinking about the here & now. She is happy & thriving every day, & that's what is important to me. She will be at school for 6 hours a day, 5 days a week, 40weeks a year, for 13 years. I want that school to be a happy, safe place for her. I know our local zoned public school isn't able to provide that for her.
I'll still check out our public school and have a look around, speak to other parents closer to the time etc and if I think it looks good I'd be dee-lighted to send my son there. But it's not sounding promising, so the baptism is our back-up. When we moved to this suburb we didn't realise how bad a rep the local public school had, we've moved to a rougher area so we can afford a house! The choice between trying to find an affordable house (again) in a zone with a decent public school or spending an awkward hour getting his head sprinkled with water.....well, we figure the latter is the easier choice.
Also, with the funding debate, I WOULD normally agree that people spending 28K per year don't need funding from the state. However I remember seeing a Michael Moore doco where he stated that the more removed the rich felt from the poor (ie the less welfare the rich received) the more they felt that they shouldn't pay taxes and caused a further divide between rich (we pay for everything anyway so why should we pay taxes) and the poor. Maybe the rich would feel hard done by regardless but I reckon a few grand per kid to keep them on board might help. It does sound like there is a reasonably fair sliding scale of funding from the government but it does sound like the poorer schools do need more if they can't afford proper heating and cooling as a bare minimum.
Also, a colleague of mine (a musician) at work says it IS all the extras, fancy musical equipment, recital halls etc that attracted him to put his kid in fancy private school (Barker I think it is) plus when he told me it was 28K per year I was like 'holy cow!' then I thought, well that's only about 7K more than I pay for childcare. We don't get a frikin recital hall and olympic swimming pool
Last edited by Bongley; 13-04-2016 at 14:00.
I'm certainly not asking people to justify, like I said, I was honestly just interested. Maybe I'm just really lucky to be in a community with great public schools, small class sizes etc so I'm not really exposed to many of the reasons people choose private. Thus why I asked.
I agree with @ellijahsmum I never encounter any criticism in real life for sending my kids to elite schools only get questioned on here.
When we moved DD2 from state school to the private school in prep it did ruffle a few feathers at her school and I get that as it was hard not to make the decision without being critical of the school she was at for not meeting her needs. But within 6 months everyone could see the change in her so had to agree the new school had offered her something the state school couldn't.
ETA I'm more than 100% happy about our school choices so am happy to offer an explanation. Our zoned public high school gets fantastic results but with enrolments nudging 2500 it's not even open to me that my kids will go there.
Last edited by Sonja; 13-04-2016 at 13:43.
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