I really hope this is a troll. If it's not, then please let her father be a single parent and pay child support. You're not being taken advantage of - you helped make this child, you are legally required to support her financially. Don't take her from a father who loves her and emotionally torture her just to reduce your child support.
If you do want to bond - you'll have to work at it. Change your inner talk, change your attitude and do positive things together to build up shared fun experiences.