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    Quote Originally Posted by twinklify View Post
    Not all babies. If your bub goes down that easily you are lucky. My DS would never fall asleep on his own when overtired. Even now he does not.

    He needed another feed, cuddles, walk in carrier or a bounce on the fitness ball.
    This!!!! I find if my almost 6yo is tired of she needs me more. This is when I just sit in her room singing softly to her and you can just see the stress leave her body and she relaxes into slumber land. Dh can't sing so he rubs her back. Either way - no distress.

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    There is no way in hell either of my boys ever fed to sleep past 2-3 weeks. That is not through lack of trying, and trying and trying. Eyes wide open. DS1 downright hated being patted or cuddled or sung to it only made him upset. Once we figured out he needed to be alone to settle he slept through every single night and still needs to be woken some mornings. I don't think leaving him to settle (which involved grizzling) was harmful or cruel in any way and it Sh!ts me to tears when people make blanket statements. What would have been cruel is persisting shoving my boob in his mouth when he was clearly full of milk, upsetting him further. Ditto to patting shushing singing which only made him scream. Get the hell out of my space mum!!

    Still trying to figure out what works for DS2. It will take a while. Not all babies are the same. We all do our best as mothers to tune into our own babies needs and I wish we wouldn't receive so much judgement when no one actually knows our child like we do. What works for you may not work for someone else.

    Great if feeding to sleep/rocking/patting/co-sleeping works. But for my boys, all the force feeding in the world ain't going to get them to sleep. It would certainly make my job easier if they did.

    So do what works for you ladies.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rose&Aurelia&Hannah View Post
    Same here. One 'waah' even whimpered and I fly to attend to them especially under 6mths old.
    @turquoisecoast. If you are happy and comfortable with your decision that's fine. You might also have an easy baby that is generally calm. Mine aren't. So crying just leads to more distress for both of us and longer/stressful bedtimes.

    I've also have so little faith in the MACH nurses due to the continuing horrid and downright ridiculous advice I've received that I now ignore/avoid them completely.
    i don't see the point of petting a kid for 6 hours til they're asleep. if a child is truly in distress or sick or whatever then yes, totally different kettle of fish.

    why can't a child whimper? a whimper is normal. they will self settle! if said whimper escalated then yes, I'd go sit with them and find out what's wrong. I just don't see it as necessary to interpret every single breath or whimper as an emergency requiring my immediate undivided attention.

    ETA: not sure why you mentioned the MACH/MCHN as I'm not following their advice. this is a routine we figured out on our own and it's working because it's baby led.

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    Quote Originally Posted by turquoisecoast View Post
    well clearly you're a far better mother than I could ever hope to be. congratulations. you win. 👍🏻
    No.

    It's not about winning.
    Its parenting. We all have different styles and different kids. What works for me might not work for you and that is okay. No one is better than the other.

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    Quote Originally Posted by turquoisecoast View Post
    well clearly you're a far better mother than I could ever hope to be. congratulations. you win. 👍🏻
    I'm sensing sarcasm. You asked if babies go to sleep quietly. I said yes - then explained how.

    I don't understand why you are getting angry. I've tried to explain that if you are happy with your method then it's all good. Your method wouldn't work for my kids nor myself.

    A few other posters have commented too about their 'quiet' ways to put babies to sleep.

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    Quote Originally Posted by turquoisecoast View Post
    ETA: not sure why you mentioned the MACH/MCHN as I'm not following their advice. this is a routine we figured out on our own and it's working because it's baby led.
    Response to another post about MACH advice about settling.

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    Quote Originally Posted by turquoisecoast View Post
    well clearly you're a far better mother than I could ever hope to be. congratulations. you win. 👍🏻
    Why would you say that? She's clearly telling you what works for HER.

    Honestly, why ask on a forum if you aren't happy to hear all the opinions? Everyone has said what they do and that if you are happy continue as you do.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rose&Aurelia&Hannah View Post
    I'm sensing sarcasm. You asked if babies go to sleep quietly. I said yes - then explained how.

    I don't understand why you are getting angry. I've tried to explain that if you are happy with your method then it's all good. Your method wouldn't work for my kids nor myself.

    A few other posters have commented too about their 'quiet' ways to put babies to sleep.
    you're judging me indirectly and intimating I'm cruel because I let my baby whimper.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sonja View Post
    Why would you say that? She's clearly telling you what works for HER.

    Honestly, why ask on a forum if you aren't happy to hear all the opinions? Everyone has said what they do and that if you are happy continue as you do.
    the second paragraph could be applied to 99% of questions asked on here.

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    Quote Originally Posted by twinklify View Post

    For me, my DS in exhaustion has cried himself to sleep but I was always holding/with/next to him. Sometimes he wants me near. Sometimes he needs me to hold him.
    Yep same here, my daughter might have cried herself to sleep but it was always in mine or hubby's arms or when she got a bit older, with us patting and shh-ing her until she was asleep.

    However to each their own; mine was a pretty good sleeper and I know others really struggle to get their babies to sleep so I try not to judge.


 

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