There is no way in hell either of my boys ever fed to sleep past 2-3 weeks. That is not through lack of trying, and trying and trying. Eyes wide open. DS1 downright hated being patted or cuddled or sung to it only made him upset. Once we figured out he needed to be alone to settle he slept through every single night and still needs to be woken some mornings. I don't think leaving him to settle (which involved grizzling) was harmful or cruel in any way and it Sh!ts me to tears when people make blanket statements. What would have been cruel is persisting shoving my boob in his mouth when he was clearly full of milk, upsetting him further. Ditto to patting shushing singing which only made him scream. Get the hell out of my space mum!!
Still trying to figure out what works for DS2. It will take a while. Not all babies are the same. We all do our best as mothers to tune into our own babies needs and I wish we wouldn't receive so much judgement when no one actually knows our child like we do. What works for you may not work for someone else.
Great if feeding to sleep/rocking/patting/co-sleeping works. But for my boys, all the force feeding in the world ain't going to get them to sleep. It would certainly make my job easier if they did.
So do what works for you ladies.
why can't a child whimper? a whimper is normal. they will self settle! if said whimper escalated then yes, I'd go sit with them and find out what's wrong. I just don't see it as necessary to interpret every single breath or whimper as an emergency requiring my immediate undivided attention.
ETA: not sure why you mentioned the MACH/MCHN as I'm not following their advice. this is a routine we figured out on our own and it's working because it's baby led.
I don't understand why you are getting angry. I've tried to explain that if you are happy with your method then it's all good. Your method wouldn't work for my kids nor myself.
A few other posters have commented too about their 'quiet' ways to put babies to sleep.
However to each their own; mine was a pretty good sleeper and I know others really struggle to get their babies to sleep so I try not to judge.
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