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    I havent read replies but I think it can be an amazing thing for a sibling to be a part of. You will need one support person for you and one dedicated to her. I think it's important to prepare her by talking a lot about it and maybe watching YouTube vids. Birth is a beautiful thing and I think it's us adults that have been socialized to see it as scary and yucky. The innocence of children often don't see it the same. If you, DD or anyone else was uncomfortable then the support person just leaves the room and goes for a walk around the hospital grounds with her. No biggie. You know her best so go with your gut and dont be put off because many people would chose not to do it. Good luck. X

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    Quote Originally Posted by RedCreamingSoda View Post
    I havent read replies but I think it can be an amazing thing for a sibling to be a part of. You will need one support person for you and one dedicated to her. I think it's important to prepare her by talking a lot about it and maybe watching YouTube vids. Birth is a beautiful thing and I think it's us adults that have been socialized to see it as scary and yucky. The innocence of children often don't see it the same. If you, DD or anyone else was uncomfortable then the support person just leaves the room and goes for a walk around the hospital grounds with her. No biggie. You know her best so go with your gut and dont be put off because many people would chose not to do it. Good luck. X
    This is what I think too.

    But she needs to know the ins and outs of birth beforehand. If you are uncomfortable and think she is too young now then it will not work.

    Have you asked her what she thinks birth is? And what to expect? Maybe she thinks baby just appears from the hospital somehow and wants to be there.

    And seeing you in pain - there is a difference between pain and labour pain. She may see you break down in labour. .

    But if she understands this and has someone she trusts supporting her then go for it.

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    I haven't read replies.

    If you don't want her there, then she shouldn't be there. If you don't mind, then I think it's fair enough to leave it up to her. People so often underestimate kids, and it could be such a great experience for her.

    If you do go for it, it might be a good idea to ensure there's a support person there JUST for her, if that makes sense...so that if she has trouble, or needs to go elsewhere, then you don't need to lose your support person.

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    I wouldn't. There are a multitude of things that can go wrong in childbirth, or can complicate matters, from emergency c sections, forcep births, haemorrhage etc, right up to stillbirth. My view is that any of these things could distress a child. I wouldn't risk it unless you had absolutely no other choice.

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    Default Thoughts on siblings being in the delivery room during labor?

    I had my 9 year old in the delivery room with me when we welcomed her little brother.
    They Drs and nurses were great. They had to use the vacuum so just told her to move away from the business end at that time. But she is pretty grown up for her age!

    ETA - I also had my husband and my mum there. My parents brought her in just at the pushing part so it wasn't like she witnessed the whole thing.
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    Quote Originally Posted by DT75 View Post
    If I felt my kid was too young to know where a baby came from, I definitely wouldn't be letting them watch.
    I thought this too. Based on her age and lack of knowledge I wouldn't even consider it if she was my DD.

    All my births have been c/s, but my eldest wanted to be present for the birth of DS2. Aside from the fact they only allow one other person in the OR (which of course was DH) it was a resounding no. And I'm so relieved as his birth went pear shaped and was quite traumatic like her birth was. She was several years older than your DD OP, and she was getting scared and upset at the amount I was vomiting post op from the copious amounts of morphine they had pumped me full of.

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    Entirely up to you. I like the idea of watching some videos with her and explaining to her that it hurts mum to have a baby but that pain is to only get the baby out. I'd also have someone waiting in the waiting room or birth suite with you as her support person so if need be they can be called to come get her if something unexpected crops up ie your mum or mil so DH isn't trying to get her to them if you're having an emergency

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    Thanks everyone for your input. I sat down with her tonight and discussed what happens and whether we both thought she could handle it or not and at first she was confident about it so we got ready to watch a birthing video together but right before I hit play she changed her mind and admitted that she didn't think she was ready to see it so we agreed that she won't be in the room while it is happening but she can come in and meet her new sister as soon as possible after she is out.


 

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