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    Default Thoughts on siblings being in the delivery room during labor?

    My 6 year old daughter has recently asked if she can be in the room when her sister is born. She is very excited and enthusiastic about being there but I am not sure if it is a good idea or not. She will be a few weeks shy of 7 by the time bubs due but do you think that she is too young to handle it?

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    I know my 6yo (at the time) wouldn't have...too long, too loud, too scary seeing mummy in so much pain etc. But maybe that is just my own deliveries!!Does she fully understand how a baby is birthed. Maybe if you are the type to birth quietly in a pool, my DD would gave been fine...but not for the "usual" birth scenario. You could always watch "one born every minute " type shows and see how she goes...

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    Agree with PP have her watch some birth videos first (youtube ones that you have specifically picked, start with a nice easy one, work up to a harder one). Then see if she still wants to. I am assuming that because you're considering it, your birth/s have been relatively straight forward?

    For me I couldn't do it. Then I have 2 boys... Just having anyone else in the room other than my DH and midwife/OB would put me off. That said, I have seen some lovely home birth videos where the siblings watch and it all looks just so lovely... And what a great lesson for a young girl. But you would want to be fairly certain it wasn't going to be a long traumatic birth,..

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    For me that is too young, I was shocked and scared by the amount of blood and pain with my first birth, so I would never have my children with me, but perhaps that's just my experience.

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    It all depends on the child I guess. We were all there when my younger brother was born because there was no one to look after us. My brother was 10, I was 7 and my sister was 3 (almost 4). None of us were scared, we literally stood at the foot of the bed and watched him come out and my brother cut the umbilical cord (I was so jealous). The only thing I vividly remember is Dad not leaving Mum's side and me asking if she was going to be OK (it was no calm birth). As an adult I look back and think how lucky we were to be a part of such an amazing experience. We grew up on a farm and witnessed stock be born and even assisted as young children so maybe that exposure to birth made us more accepting of the process.

    Eta-for those speaking about complications, I'm sure medical staff would have discretely removed us at the first sign of complications. Growing up, we also sat there with family members as they passed away, so death (although NOT traumatic) has very much been a part of our upbringing.
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    I watched my Aunt give birth when I was 10. I remember being so proud of her and absolutely amazed at women in general. It gave me a lot of confidence when I was pregnant with DS (I ended up with a c-section though..).
    I agree with having her watch some videos first - I even went to the birth class with my Aunt, I was fascinated by everything pregnancy related!

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    Default Thoughts on siblings being in the delivery room during labor?

    No I would never allow it. My sister in law nearly died giving birth and her baby was very ill when born. None of this was predicted and she had previously had 2 perfect natural deliveries.

    Even with a minuscule chance something might go wrong there's no way I'd want any of my kids to witness something like that.
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    I chose not to. I feel like it a intimate thing between my husband and myself.
    My eldest was a teen and a adult at my last two births and very Interested in pregnancy. I still felt it wasn't the right idea for me.

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    My daughter was almost the exact same age as yours when I was due to give birth last December and like yours she had asked to be with me. I thought it was a terrible idea and came up with every excuse as to why it wasn't possible for her to be there. She had a response to every reason I gave her.
    Then as it turned out (completely accidental) I gave birth at home in my driveway with only my husband there. It wasn't until the ambulance arrived that I heard my daughter speak to them and then realised she had been there the whole time! She speaks very positively of the whole experience. It has changed my opinion that's for sure!

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    Is this for a home birth or hospital birth? Check if it's allowed at your hospital if ur birthing there. But no id not do it. Despite 2 perfect births before my 3rd was horrendous, i lost alot of blood, I couldn't stop screaming. No way.


 

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