Just an idea. Rule out teething pain. I thought sleep regression but turned out panadol solved the every 1.5hr waking screaming. That lasted a week and then the rest of the time is mostly due to regression.
Completely understand you wanting to cuddle to sleep etc but it sounds like you know this is probably not helping. I'm not saying you need to stop - you need to do what's right for you. However if you're considering a sleep school then you probably know that cuddling to sleep will need to stop etc. so you can teach your baby to self settle/resettle, go down more quickly and ultimately sleep longer stretches.
It comes down to what's more important - you having time to watch tv/unwind (and some more uninterrupted sleep), or the need to hold on to your baby. It may not be possible to do both.
4 months old is pretty young though, I would probably look at other coping strategies and reassess in another month or two, if you can last that long. From memory I had the most difficult time at 4 months with DS1 in terms of unsettledness etc. for me it was the hardest time beyond the initial newborn shock. Maybe things will improve on their own next month...
So I do know what I need to do, it's just having the time to dedicate to it when I have my older two at my heels during the day and at bedtime. But I'll have to try and see how it goes.
And she often spits the dummy out during sleep, but seems to need it to settle into sleep. So I'll try to remove it a bit sooner. Currently her hands go to her mouth instead, but it wakes her up rather than settling her. She just wants to chew everything.
We just got back from sleep school with DS who is 8 months.
I think a comforter is a good idea. DS never showed any interest but the nurses used one of my worn t-shirts, which worked a treat. They also had be stuff his other comforter into my bra during non-nap time so it smelled like me.
It's only been a week, but he's doing so well and sleeps with both.
My sleep school wasn't big on routine; they encourage watching for tired signs.
If you've been to sleep school before you know the basics. I also grabbed the Ferber book from the library for support at home - which helped me.
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