for showers I pop bub into his bassinet and wheel that into the bathroom so he can see me/I can see him. he's never cried once, I think the white noise of the shower and the warmth soothe him. I could be way off of course but that's working for us right now. I don't even hurry in the shower, in fact I take my time 😂
side note: I've found the most awesome app that turns my iPhone into a remote mouse/keyboard for my laptop. so as I'm watching crap purchase on iTunes on my laptop via hdmi cable on my tv, instead of having to get up and press pause on my laptop, I can control it from the couch using my iPhone. it's actually changed my life 😂
When DD came along I got up before DH went to work and he held her whilst I showered (major clingy baby). He also made me a coffee before he left, 5 and a bit years later he still does
I had to be go with the flow with DD as she had never fell into a pattern, barely slept (2 x 15 minute naps per day) and howled the instant she was put down on a baby mat, gym, rocker or anything else. DS was 3.5 when DD was born. In the early days my only goal of the day was to go for a walk in the morning. I put DD in a pram but had a back up plan if DS ran off (he was a runner) or refused to go home. I had a sling with me that I could put DD in and I could then put DS in the pram (by force if necessary) then walk home as quickly as I could. I also put DS in the little monkey harness strap thingy and got him to hold the side of the pram. Fortunately this really stuck with him (it was his 'place') and only had one issue one day when DS was over tired and hurt his foot.
I also got into the habbit of making DS's lunch the night before so that I could just pull it out from the fridge. DH was a huge help. I dread to think how it would have worked out without him.
It was a total wind back of expectations in terms of household chores. My aim was to do 1 thing per day and by 1 thing I mean put a load of washing on. Not put it on, hang it out and put it away, just put it in the machine and turn the machine on. There were many days I didn't even manage that.
Last edited by A-Squared; 09-04-2016 at 18:06.
I love this thread! I only have one baby but now he is 8.5 months old I am starting to think about when we should have the next one. Will probably end up with a 2-3 year age gap because I want to finish my master's degree.
My DS is spirited like some have mentioned their toddlers are, I can't WAIT to see what he is like as a toddler!!! By the sound of it I will be on my toes. He is a very happy, adventurous boy, but he does have the odd moments of being chilled so perhaps a bit of both. I am so proud of him already haha.
Anyway thanks for all the insights into what I should be prepared for!!
The only thing I have really found hard so far is sleep, the rest has been really amazing. Although we have had our moments like everybody. I think my main struggles were that even though rationally I knew motherhood wasn't going to be like a huggies commercial, I had high expectations on myself to do it amazingly and cope perfectly. Ha, I got a reality check pretty quick!!
As bub got older I used a mei tai, and sometimes a pouch.
I was never a fan of carriers, but then I didn't try a huge range of them anyway. Just don't get a Baby bjorn.
My baby is four so I know there are so many more options out there but a wrap carrier (I had a Moby Wrap but a Hugabub is the same thing) was my life saver when they were little and then moved on to the Ergo.
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