Plus if I swapped my first and second child around, I would have had DD having her mega meltdown tantrums by then, as well as a hysterical newborn with sensory issues. Would have been truly awful...
If our next is another tornado I'll def have to stop at 2. Or wait 5 years.
Last edited by Clementine Grace; 08-04-2016 at 08:39.
For outings I chose gated places. I'm in Canberra so we went to questacon mini q, those play centres, playground near lake.
I also kept DD in daycare which obviously helped a lot. We dont have family support, so thats the only break I got.
I also found DD hit a switch around 3 and was more capable of playing independently. Slightly anyhow. Good luck!
I found 2 under 2 busy, but not difficult. No. 1 was a nightmare of a 2 year old, and I think if we had had a 2 year gap the wheels would have fallen off big time, especially when no. 2 would scream unless on me for the first 10 weeks. But, by the time the terrible twos were in full house baby no. 2 had a bit nore of a natural pattern going on, and was happy enough to play on the floor independently while I dealt with the difficult two year old.
2 under 2 worked for us, despite neither child being particularly easy. However, less than a 2 year gap is sooooo common in my family, in fact half of my relatives have a 13 month age gap between siblings so small age gaps are the norm for us. Growing up, small age gaps were always talked about as 'the way to go' and I agree.
For me personally, 1-2 was the easiest transition. I enjoyed being a mum to two so much more than being a mum to one, even though I had less time for me and life was I busier.
I am a go with the flow person to an extent, I hate rigid structure. So I was probably less concerned than someone who hates having to deviate from their original plans.
I think people might be confusing busy with difficult. Yes 2 under 2 or 2yr gap is busy. Very very busy with limited sleep and almost no alone time. But it was rarely difficult.
Once you get into a good daily rhythm it's just gets so easy. Now when I grocery shop with 3 I wonder how I ever thought shopping with 1 or 2 hard.
Even now with 3 kids- 6mths, almost 4&6yo, it's busy BUT not hard once past the initial 6-8wks.
Does that make sense?
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