I'd often hand out washing at 8-9pm for the next day so I could l be out the door by 7/7.30am. .
What alone/down time?? Most parents of newborns don't have much if any down time. My down time were my walks. Headphones in ears and kids in pram. Once the baby was about 4-6mths old I got more alone time at the gym.
I napped with the kids on my bed. I've never been restricted to a schedule/rules so that's probably why I found it easier. I have never been focused on getting my baby to sleep independently in their bed. Quite frankly I don't care where they sleep as long as they sleep with no crying or distress.
I'm an army wife. So dh is all over the place if in the same state/city.
I have friends. They visited me. Or I visited them.
My house has always been neat/tidy/washing up to date. We use cloth nappies so that's an extra 3-4 washes a week. I'd rather have less sleep and a clean house. My kids have been taught from a young age to pack up/tidy their things.
No medical conditions.
Yes I'm a go with the flow. That's probably why I managed quite well. Yes I had awful days. I remember walking both girls in the pram to sleep at 2am around our suburb as dd1 went thru this stupid phase of not sleeping. So every nap and bedtime I had to walk her to sleep. So I was out there pacing at all odd hours. Went on for 3mths!!! But she got over that.
In no way my awful days outnumbered my good days. I do not regret my 2 under 2...