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    Default What's in a name?

    Does your child have your last name? Or your exs? Or it's fathers?
    Have you ever considered changing and so forth.
    Trying to make the best choice for my um split family
    My son has my exs last name
    And wondering if I do the same with my new Bub (not due till later this year) I'm just worried later there will be the why do I have your name and my brother doesn't and so forth

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    As someone who has been through the legal process of changing a child's surname, I would give the new bub your surname.

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    Can I ask why you decided to change it? If you want to share :-)

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    My eldest has my surname. My second and third children have a hyphenated name of my hubby and mine.

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    That's another thing I could look into as well that I didn't think of

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    I'm not single, but DS has DP's surname and DD has mine. That's just what we decided to do. Its never been an issue. I can't even describe what a non-issue it is. I would give your baby your name.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 2ndchancesuprise View Post
    Can I ask why you decided to change it? If you want to share :-)
    Sure. Bio father was a no show for over 5 years. Not a single birthday card or Christmas gift the entire time.
    I had to book my child into school the following year and decided to give my child my surname. They weren't really old enough to grasp any sort of change and doesn't know any different.
    Child is now age 11 years. Still haven't seen or heard from bio.
    I believe I made the right choice as the older my child got, the more confusing it would have become for them to have a different name from the rest of the family and not be in any form of contact with bio father or his family.
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    😒 I can see how that would have been a hard thing to do especially with out him in the picture I cant understand why they make it so hard in a situation like that. Good thing to have a think about. Bubs dad seems pretty determined to be in the picture from day 1 to the point he's now changed plans of moving interstate however that really doesn't mean jack at the moment as he's only just come around to the idea after telling me he couldn't do it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FearlessLeader View Post
    I'm not single, but DS has DP's surname and DD has mine. That's just what we decided to do. Its never been an issue. I can't even describe what a non-issue it is. I would give your baby your name.
    Can I ask why just out of curiosity? Especially given you are together only if you want to answer :-)

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    Quote Originally Posted by 2ndchancesuprise View Post
    Can I ask why just out of curiosity? Especially given you are together only if you want to answer :-)
    Oops, just saw this now! We decided when I was pregnant with our first that if it was a boy it would have his name and a girl would have mine. Second baby would get the other name (we always planned to have 2). I have my own name that I'm very attached to, and neither of us really understood or agreed with the idea that babies should automatically get their father's name. I feel pretty strongly about the whole concept of women and children taking on the name of the male parent/partner. I think it's rubbish that not enough people think about in a very critical manner. My identity is no less than his.

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