My daughter will be turning 1 in May and we've started discussing what we will be doing celebration wise. If anything it will be a small gathering of our friends and their kids as these are our daughter's friends. we are conflicted about wether to have friends and family together. For one my daughter will be too busy playing with her friends to care that her grandparents are there and I'm the one who will get stuck entertaining them. I know it is my daughters birthday and I feel a little selfish for choosing something that suits me better but I won't enjoy my time or be able to be my true self with our friends if our family is there (in laws in particular). There's also the issue of tension between divorced grandparents, when my husband and I have our birthdays we have seperate dinners with all parents and something with our friends on the weekend just to avoid the icky awkward situations. I'm happy to have dinner with the families (seperately of course) and a small gathering with friends...what do you all think? Any advice or previous experiences would be appreciated.
On a side note: I did ask my mum this already and she said just have seperate things but it's my husbands family I'm more concerned about. It seems ever since I've had my daughter I'm always having to consider grandparents and their wishes more than my own. Which is something I never thought would be an issue prior to having a baby but it causes me so much stress!!!