+ Reply to Thread
Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 14
  1. #1
    Join Date
    Jan 2012
    Location
    Paradise
    Posts
    357
    Thanks
    40
    Thanked
    122
    Reviews
    0

    Default Another wwyd.

    Dh and I have 3 kids between us ( 17,15,12).
    We live in a small town with not much opportunity for the kids when it's time to leave school work wise. We have our parents close by but don't need them to baby sit kids as such.

    We have been tossing up moving for a little while but have stayed due to eldest having Aspergers and has trouble making friend. This has come up because said eldest wants to leave school so not much holding us here except for my job ( im currently looking for a new one anyway) and dh job ( he does earn good money but not a steady income). We are thinking of moving south closer to my biological family ( more so my sister) but it's a huge move. New school, finding work, new house ( we rent now but rent is considerably cheaper where we want to go). It's only 2 hours from where we are now so seeing the parents wouldn't be a huge deal. There is so much more opportunity for the kids work wise and career wise. We wouldn't move for at least 6 months.

    We are so confused stay and kids and is struggle to find employment and pay Through the nose for rent or move have a fresh start but kids have to start new schools and we new jobs but rent is cheaper.

  2. #2
    Join Date
    Sep 2005
    Location
    Perth
    Posts
    8,544
    Thanks
    1,351
    Thanked
    2,307
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Doesn't sound like there's much to stay for! Go for it!

  3. The Following User Says Thank You to sunnyflower For This Useful Post:

    lese82  (04-04-2016)

  4. #3
    Join Date
    May 2013
    Posts
    7,853
    Thanks
    5,065
    Thanked
    4,446
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Awards:
    Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 17/4/15100 Posts in a week
    How do your two youngest feel about starting new schools elsewhere? Can I ask where you are moving from and to?

  5. #4
    Join Date
    Sep 2013
    Posts
    4,290
    Thanks
    8,234
    Thanked
    3,935
    Reviews
    1
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    I understand how you feel, but my kids are still very young so I'm glad I'm still here with support of our parents.
    We are in a regional area with high unemployment, dh and all the other significant males in my life commute to Sydney for work (min 90 minutes each way).
    I know I'll be lucky if my kids will ever be able to find work without hours of commuting or an affordable house if they stay here.
    I dream of pulling up sticks and seeking a better life elsewhere - I can get work in my field anywhere- but to me family are priceless. That's what keeps me here. My kids can always seek their own opportunities elsewhere.

    It's a very personal decision though

  6. #5
    Join Date
    Jan 2012
    Location
    Paradise
    Posts
    357
    Thanks
    40
    Thanked
    122
    Reviews
    0
    Quote Originally Posted by A-Squared View Post
    How do your two youngest feel about starting new schools elsewhere? Can I ask where you are moving from and to?
    The youngest are fine with it.

    We are in port Macquarie and looking to move to Newcastle area.

  7. #6
    Join Date
    Jan 2012
    Location
    Paradise
    Posts
    357
    Thanks
    40
    Thanked
    122
    Reviews
    0
    Quote Originally Posted by Little Miss Sunshine View Post
    I understand how you feel, but my kids are still very young so I'm glad I'm still here with support of our parents.
    We are in a regional area with high unemployment, dh and all the other significant males in my life commute to Sydney for work (min 90 minutes each way).
    I know I'll be lucky if my kids will ever be able to find work without hours of commuting or an affordable house if they stay here.
    I dream of pulling up sticks and seeking a better life elsewhere - I can get work in my field anywhere- but to me family are priceless. That's what keeps me here. My kids can always seek their own opportunities elsewhere.

    It's a very personal decision though
    My husband and I both moved here to be close to our parents 10 years ago met and fell in love. I don't feel close to my parents in the sense I can't talk to them about anything personal but our concern is if they fall ill.

  8. #7
    Join Date
    Oct 2010
    Posts
    9,889
    Thanks
    3,051
    Thanked
    5,857
    Reviews
    2
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a week
    Quote Originally Posted by lese82 View Post
    The youngest are fine with it.

    We are in port Macquarie and looking to move to Newcastle area.
    Newcastle is awesome, so my vote is for the move!

  9. #8
    Join Date
    Sep 2014
    Location
    Sydney
    Posts
    2,845
    Thanks
    1,822
    Thanked
    1,423
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a week
    Quote Originally Posted by lese82 View Post
    Dh and I have 3 kids between us ( 17,15,12).
    We live in a small town with not much opportunity for the kids when it's time to leave school work wise. We have our parents close by but don't need them to baby sit kids as such.

    We have been tossing up moving for a little while but have stayed due to eldest having Aspergers and has trouble making friend. This has come up because said eldest wants to leave school so not much holding us here except for my job ( im currently looking for a new one anyway) and dh job ( he does earn good money but not a steady income). We are thinking of moving south closer to my biological family ( more so my sister) but it's a huge move. New school, finding work, new house ( we rent now but rent is considerably cheaper where we want to go). It's only 2 hours from where we are now so seeing the parents wouldn't be a huge deal. There is so much more opportunity for the kids work wise and career wise. We wouldn't move for at least 6 months.

    We are so confused stay and kids and is struggle to find employment and pay Through the nose for rent or move have a fresh start but kids have to start new schools and we new jobs but rent is cheaper.
    CONS: moving, making new friends/connections

    PROS: New jobs, cheaper rent, better opportunities for kids, closer to family

    I would be going. I know you said your eldest has aspergers, and might have trouble making friends. TBH I would rather he had career opportunities rather than friends.

  10. #9
    Join Date
    Oct 2011
    Location
    Gold Coast, QLD
    Posts
    3,601
    Thanks
    1,294
    Thanked
    1,107
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    If there is going to be more job opportunities, rent will be cheaper and the kids don't mind then I say go for it! I'm in SA have applied for so many jobs and not one call back, we are moving to Newcastle in a few weeks, applied for one job and already got an interview. You guys, including the children will have no problems getting work.

  11. #10
    Join Date
    May 2009
    Posts
    4,786
    Thanks
    1,021
    Thanked
    2,246
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    I have family in Port Macquarie and as much as I love the place I would move if I was you. They call that place Gods waiting room for a reason.

    Newcastle will give you and your family much better opportunities.


 

Similar Threads

  1. Wwyd
    By BeauOliver in forum General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
    Replies: 16
    Last Post: 21-03-2016, 14:42
  2. wwyd ? (sex)
    By Luanajo in forum General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
    Replies: 9
    Last Post: 14-12-2015, 22:43
  3. Wwyd
    By Louise41 in forum General depression and blues
    Replies: 151
    Last Post: 19-10-2015, 16:42

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Mother and Baby Shop
Save $$$ during our Christmas Sale Mother and Baby Shop
Great prices on Schoenhut kids pianos, toys, baby clothing as well as big brands like Pigeon, NUK, Cherub Baby and many more. Sale starts on 1 November 2016 and ends on the 27 December 2016. Hurry! Place your order today!
sales & new stuffsee all
Bub Hub Sales Listing
HAVING A SALE? Let parents know about it with a Bub Hub Sales listing. Listings are featured on our well trafficked Sales Page + selected randomly to appear on EVERY page
featured supporter
Heinz Baby Basics
Our BPA Free range offers you a choice for every stage of your baby’s feeding development. You’ll love our brilliant colours, inspired designs and innovative features. Heinz Baby Basics caters for your baby’s needs!
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!