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    Exactly, Stretched.
    And it's not even painful. In and out on a lunch break.
    It's all in the head.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Phony View Post
    Exactly, Stretched.
    And it's not even painful. In and out on a lunch break.
    It's all in the head.
    Don't you know it is THE MOST PAINFUL THING ON THE PLANET!!! I mean, keyhole surgery under local is so much worse than childbirth. Whether it be CS or VB nothing compares lol.

    The way some men carry on about it afterwards is ridiculous sometimes. Take panadol. Get over it.

    I have no sympathy. I just birthed a baby today lol.

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    Biologically, I can completely understand. He is ONLY 38. For a woman it is completely different.
    It is one of the only areas where equality will never happen.
    He can continue to 'produce' kids for years and years. You cannot.

    Talk him through why YOU are done. Make him aware of the facts- not just the feelings.
    If it's not an option at all for you, then that's it really.

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    Quote Originally Posted by twinklify View Post
    I just birthed a baby today lol.
    OMG?
    CONGRATULATIONS!
    XXXXX

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    Quote Originally Posted by DT75 View Post
    Biologically, I can completely understand. He is ONLY 38. For a woman it is completely different.
    It is one of the only areas where equality will never happen.
    He can continue to 'produce' kids for years and years. You cannot.

    Talk him through why YOU are done. Make him aware of the facts- not just the feelings.
    If it's not an option at all for you, then that's it really.
    I get this.
    And you know what else is weird, when I think of his age I think, OMG, that's so young!
    But when I think of myself (3 yrs between us) I feel so old!
    I suppose nothing really changes physically for men no matter how many kids they have but each one for us will take a little something.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Phony View Post
    OMG?
    CONGRATULATIONS!
    XXXXX
    Haha. Thanks. I'm still a little in shock.

    Now bubs is here (and once we get settled) this is the convo I need to have with DH.

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    Well I hope you come to a quicker solution than us.
    DD is 14 months now

    Enjoy your newborn baby time, they are precious. X

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    I understand where your husband is coming from totally and I feel for you.

    Please don't take this the wrong way but for me, when I decided I was done, I dealt with any future possibility of becoming pregnant myself. I didn't rely (or in fact ask) my husband to get a vasectomy, because I was done in myself (so I took it upon myself to have my tubes tied).

    Although I understand the "it's his turn attitude" I don't necessarily agree with it myself because if you are truly done then you need to look after yourself in that respect and deal with any future possibilities yourself ... Not rely on someone else to do that for you, after all of things go sour then 9/10 the kids you have together tend to fall solely on your shoulders as mum

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    Oh I understand that too, Taffabella, but I'm someone who will rarely even take a painkiller when I'm suffering so the thoughts of going under anesthetic unnecessarily again is a no no for me.
    I've had to have it twice due to two missed miscarriages and it's not something I think anyone should do voluntarily - even though I'm asking hubby to but that would be a local anesthetic and would be minor in comparison to tubal ligation which is general and a much bigger deal imo.
    If that didn't bother me, or the procedure was as easy as it would be for a vasectomy, I would have it done already

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    Quote Originally Posted by Phony View Post
    Oh I understand that too, Taffabella, but I'm someone who will rarely even take a painkiller when I'm suffering so the thoughts of going under anesthetic unnecessarily again is a no no for me.
    I've had to have it twice due to two missed miscarriages and it's not something I think anyone should do voluntarily - even though I'm asking hubby to but that would be a local anesthetic and would be minor in comparison to tubal ligation which is general and a much bigger deal imo.
    If that didn't bother me, or the procedure was as easy as it would be for a vasectomy, I would have it done already
    DH had a vasectomy at 32. I had exactly the same reasons as you and told him just that. I went through complications with birth and after so the GP recommended it was safer and much easier for DH to have a vasectomy. Luckily he was on board, he didn't mind if I got pregnant but wasn't really "wanting" a baby. Before the vasectomy I was stressed every month that I would fall pregnant even using birth control. I'm still worried about it now! I can't have another baby I wouldn't cope at all.
    The procedure is so easy and he was pain free after a week. A bag of frozen peas and some panadine extra sorted him out for the first 2 days. In all fairness he was really good about it.

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