Easter weekend DH and I were enjoying a few drinks and a giggle and I asked him when he was booking in for the snip.
We have three children and we are certain we don't want any more.
He's been dragging his heels on this for over a year now so I ask him why he's so hesitant and tell him not to be worrying that something would go wrong, which was his excuse up until now.
He got a bit emotional (which is isn't like him at all) and said "well maybe I'm not ready to say that that's it for us."
I thought he was joking for a split second. He was deadly serious.
I lost all my words. I couldn't speak.
It's just not an option for me. I'm definitely done.
I have my hands full with three and no family support, and the biggest factor is I'm 42 this year. Nope! No way in hell.
And even if I was five years younger I still wouldn't want another one.
Things are only starting to get a bit easier and our baby is 14 months now.
I can't do it all over again.
I'm hoping it's just a wobble or midlife crisis. He's only 38 though, 40 is another 13 months away so it will be a long wobble if that's the case, and as much as I feel for him I just don't think it would be a good move for us.
I have just about clung to my sanity after the last baby, a beautiful little daughter after two beautiful boys.
That's just perfection there and every day I'm thankful for what I've got, I'm more than happy with my lot.
Usually it's women who want more kids and hubby says no isn't it.
I told my family and no one believed me which he's delighted with, thought that was hilarious all together, but their disbelief goes to show how out of character it is for him to be like this. I thought the next day he'd back down and say he was joking or with a sober head that he'd say he'd like one but knows we can't, but he hasn't and yesterday he even told friends we were having lunch with that he'd love another one.
I'm really, really shocked by this, he's the level headed one between us both.
I don't know? The effects of little girls on their daddies eh?
Has anyone been in a similar situation?
Did you go ahead and have another baby for hubby even though you weren't that keen for various reason, health, finances etc, etc?
Or did you stand your ground and decide that it wouldn't be a great idea at all, and if so, how was your DH afterwards? Did it pass?
I'd love to hear if anyone's DH is like mine and is maybe wanting to have another before the window closes for good (I think he forgets I'm older than him). I know that's how I was at 39 and I gave myself one year to conceive and if it didn't happen that was it, I would have made peace with it. I wasn't going to push my luck and still be trying in my forties. I know a lot of people do these days but that was my decision and it worked out very well for us.
Now he's going through it and it makes me unhappy to think he's feeling like that because what do you do? I don't feel its right. If he could carry the child I'd go for it, haha, I just never, ever want to be pregnant again.