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@BerryDelicious I can't imagine what you went through and the fact you are pursuing this shows you are still going through it. I have a nearly 11 year old and to think of her experiencing this in only a few short years makes me feel like crying.
Have you seen a counsellor? It's often the case they can actually help with knowing what the right avenues are to find out information. Just thinking maybe family planning could help with giving you advice on the avenues to pursue.
I hope I'm not overstepping or projecting here but I'm sure your mum was only trying to protect you. I know I would do anything to shield my children from what you went through and to limit the pain they would inevitably go through. She no doubt could have done better.
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Last edited by BerryDelicious; 05-04-2016 at 20:16.
I don't have any advice but I have to say how sorry I am that you have had to deal with all that. And for your step father to then say such horrible things makes it even more heartbreaking. I'm truly sorry and I hope you get the answers you want and can find peace for yourself. Xx
I hope you find some answers. You sound like an immensely strong woman now and a wonderful mum.
In later term terminations (from about 20 weeks onwards I believe) the fetus is injected with potassium which causes a cardiac arrest and it will pass away in-utero. It then has to be delivered vaginally, so you basically have an induction of labour. You would remember this. I think you were probably less than 20 weeks pregnant from what you have described.
I am glad you are receiving counselling. It really sounds like a horrific situation.
The injection into the heart is over 24 weeks (viability week). At your gestation if your baby did take a breath it would likely have been fleeting. They couldn't have survived for long enough to suffer.
I debated whether to point this out but after reading your comments, I feel like it may help. I'm sorry if it doesn't. This was not a late term abortion in the clinical sense. Late term is over 20 weeks, where the baby is delivered through induction of labour and if it didn't have the injection, those babies often do live for a short time (sometimes hours).
At 16 or 17 weeks your little angel wouldn't have suffered, they didn't have the faculties to do that.
The one who is suffering now is you, hon. I can't believe you've been through all this. I'm glad you're seeing someone. You're a really strong, admirable lady xx
I hope you are able to get some answers from the information request xx
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