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    Default Too many presents. ..twins

    My twins are having their 3rd birthday soon and I feel awkward that people might bring two gifts. It seems like a lot for someone coming to one party. I'm not sure whether to address it on the invitation and say just bring one/none. Does anyone else have opinions on what would be the norm for twin parties? How would you feel going to one party and giving two gifts?
    On a side note. ...I always take two gifts (one from each of my girls) to other parties because i feel like i should with twins both being invited. But I don't think other siblings do that.
    Would love some honest feedback as i have years of this to come! Ha!

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    I have 2 sets of twins in the family and we buy both separate presents as we think they have to share a birthday so deserve their own presents! I've found that their friends always buy 2 as they always give 2 when they go to parties , if your comfortable enough tell people what you want if they ask, it's so much nicer knowing your buying something they want or can use!

    I always ask the parents of the birthday child what they would like and some have said nothing or donate to charity or cash etc

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    Default Too many presents. ..twins

    I would never buy one gift for twins - that just doesn't sit right with me. They're little individuals and in my opinion, they deserve to receive their own gifts. I honestly wouldn't address it on the invitation - people just expect to give two gifts if there are two birthday children. If you do put on the invitation that only one gift is required, people may assume that's how you want it to be in the future too. That 'might' be ok whilst your twins are little, but they may not share your enthusiasm for only one gift between them as they get older.
    I think, let them receive a gift each. People really won't mind.

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    I wouldn't put anything on the invite. Leave it up to the guests to decide.

    If I was going to a twins birthday, I'd most likely get them a gift each and wouldn't mind doing so.

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    Thank you everyone. Nice to know that people wouldn't mind. I'll just let it go. Appreciate your feedback!

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    If I were a twin I would prefer my own present, not having to share all the time just because I'm (hypertherically) a twin.
    My son recently went to a twin birthday party (boy and girl)... The mum said he could just get something for his friend (the boy twin) but I wouldn't feel right not getting something for his sister. I spend equal amount of money on both ($10 each for a different game each).
    I have triplet friends, though one is more a friend... But whenever I get invited to her (their) birthdays I get them all something.

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    My daughter is going to a twin birthday next weekend. The invite was addressed just from one of the twins but I'll buy a present for both.
    I wouldn't put anything on the invite and leave it up to the people attending.

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    Quote Originally Posted by siansmum View Post
    I would never buy one gift for twins - that just doesn't sit right with me. They're little individuals and in my opinion, they deserve to receive their own gifts. I honestly wouldn't address it on the invitation - people just expect to give two gifts if there are two birthday children. If you do put on the invitation that only one gift is required, people may assume that's how you want it to be in the future too. That 'might' be ok whilst your twins are little, but they may not share your enthusiasm for only one gift between them as they get older.
    I think, let them receive a gift each. People really won't mind.
    This. Mainly the point about as the twins get older they might want their own presents then it's really awkward to say two presents please 😄

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    I've never addressed it, but my boys have always gotten their own presents (and given a present from each of them to friends). I make them share enough without asking them to share gifts as well.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mod-Nomsie View Post
    I've never addressed it, but my boys have always gotten their own presents (and given a present from each of them to friends). I make them share enough without asking them to share gifts as well.
    Don't all kids share the toys in the house though? I don't think it's anything specific to twins to always share. Mine are only young but opening a present together is fun and they play together 99 per cent of the time so i doubt it would phase them at this age to have one toy that they share. But i appreciate the responses that others wouldn't mind giving two. Good to know. I suppose it just felt excessive, but if nobody would mind, then it doesn't seem it is an issue.


 

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