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    Default How to make it work with 3 kids...

    I felt this way- I could do it again- after my second for a few months. Great birth, easy baby. She's now 5 months and the hormones have dissipated and reality has kicked in- no I will not be having another. We are done.

    I don't blame vp for trying to spark a debate. It's been quite sterile again on bubhub, I think she's bored and trying to find things to argue about.

    Eta: I'm grieving the loss of a newborn and I'm sad that I won't be doing it again. I think this is all normal and not necessarily a sign you should go again.
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    Hello helllllloooo over here! I'm young (well I think so) 25. I have zero energy. Age does not define parenting. Older parents are fanatic at finding that energy and sex drive I have no idea how HAAHAH

    I am mature for my age I find (maybe not on forums etc) but I am a granny.

    A third is not for me because I would mentally burn myself. I am already with two.

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    You really need to back off VP.

    Yes I can handle 4 kids. Why?? Cos I'm a flaming good mum. There happy??? Not implying it. I said I'm an awesome mum.

    Dh not wanting teenagers at home at 50? It's OK for some people to say they don't want kids in their 20s for whatever reason. But we can say we wouldn't like teens in the house at 50???

    BTW you forgot to pick on the bit where I said we'd have to care for our parents in our autumn years.

    Oh and I was a better mum at 26 than at 32. At 26 I was a happy functioning mum on 2-3hrs sleep a night for months. Now I need 4-5hrs and I get cranky.

    You really need to get a life.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Perfectly valid point considering on one hand R&A claimed she was confident in her parenting skills/ could handle 4 kids (implying she could do so this far as she was still young) .... And on the other R&A has mentioned it is getting tougher (sometimes to a debilitating point) . When someone is being given advice about popping out a third or 4th kid I believe they need to be given the entire picture - warts and all.

    I'm done now thanks Kristoff
    Why are you pushing this? The op asked for advice on having a third child, which R&A has provided as an actual parent of 3 kids. Her reasons for having or not having more kids are her own, like anyone. Why are you picking apart her posts. Age might be a factor for her and that's totally valid.

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    All this talk about babies and sleep and toddlers.

    What about teenagers??? Three teenagers!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rose&Aurelia&Hannah View Post
    You really need to back off VP.

    Yes I can handle 4 kids. Why?? Cos I'm a flaming good mum. There happy??? Not implying it. I said I'm an awesome mum.

    Dh not wanting teenagers at home at 50? It's OK for some people to say they don't want kids in their 20s for whatever reason. But we can say we wouldn't like teens in the house at 50???

    BTW you forgot to pick on the bit where I said we'd have to care for our parents in our autumn years.

    Oh and I was a better mum at 26 than at 32. At 26 I was a happy functioning mum on 2-3hrs sleep a night for months. Now I need 4-5hrs and I get cranky.

    You really need to get a life.
    I apologise for being offended at your comments which I perceived were insensitive.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Clementine Grace View Post
    Why are you pushing this? The op asked for advice on having a third child, which R&A has provided as an actual parent of 3 kids. Her reasons for having or not having more kids are her own, like anyone. Why are you picking apart her posts. Age might be a factor for her and that's totally valid.
    Because when Rose builds herself up (and I understand the reasons for this - totally valid) it's usually done in a way that can be perceived as smug and which implies others that do it differently (older, don't want 4 kids) are inferior. Maybe it's a language/cultural thing and I've got the wrong end of the stick.

    My objection to the comments are known - I am happy to let this drop if others are.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rose&Aurelia&Hannah View Post
    You really need to back off VP.

    Yes I can handle 4 kids. Why?? Cos I'm a flaming good mum. There happy??? Not implying it. I said I'm an awesome mum.

    Dh not wanting teenagers at home at 50? It's OK for some people to say they don't want kids in their 20s for whatever reason. But we can say we wouldn't like teens in the house at 50???

    BTW you forgot to pick on the bit where I said we'd have to care for our parents in our autumn years.

    Oh and I was a better mum at 26 than at 32. At 26 I was a happy functioning mum on 2-3hrs sleep a night for months. Now I need 4-5hrs and I get cranky.

    You really need to get a life.
    You are a bloody awesome mum.

    I totally respect the idea of not having teens in your 50's. I will teens well into my 60's. Teen are different sort of hard work. I have 3 teens at the moment. Now add in dealing with looking after elderly parents it can be freaking he'll some days. Shopping with 5/6 kids is bloody easy compared to shopping with nanny and teens at the same time.

    Not enough sleep crankness is real and valid and yes I dealt with it better than now. But that just life. It's normal part of life. It is what is. It has nothing to do with parenting it has to do with age. Growing older has things we can't control and that is one of them.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Because when Rose builds herself up (and I understand the reasons for this - totally valid) it's usually done in a way that can be perceived as smug and which implies others that do it differently (older, don't want 4 kids are inferior). Maybe it's a language/cultural thing and I've got the wrong end of the stick.

    My objection to the comments are known - I am happy to let this drop if others are.
    I think it's time you hit the ignore button on Rose's comments if they get to you that much.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sonja View Post
    I think it's time you hit the ignore button on Rose's comments if they get to you that much.
    True. However Rose is a valued member of the BH community and has plenty of good things to contribute - a less disruptive approach could be simply to think about how comments may affect others before posting? (Yes I know pot calling kettle).


 

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