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    Default cut off toxic mil. makes contact 4yrs later...

    Long story short: df finally saw the light 4yrs ago and cut his mother off.
    Life has been so much more drama free and happy. she plays childish games, lies, manipulates, causes unnecessary drama and is just very toxic. she is unstable and claims to have multiple personality disorder (and has said to me if i ever wanted to hit someone let her as she could claim her unstable condition as a defense)

    last week out of the blue, his ex tried adding me as a friend on fb. we have been together 8yrs. i laughed. spoke to him and declined (felt i should be honest)

    a few days later, his mumsends a friend request.i decline it also and let him know. he uses fb but because of the harassment and drama from these two he is unable to use his real name

    Anyway, i then get a message (figured id get one) asking for him to contact her (mil). He tells me to ask what she wants...basically...she claims she is dying....and wants 75k in a month or is taking df to court.

    We have never borrowed so much as $5 off her. she has always been on the dole, so where she thinks she got $75k from to give df is amusing...or how she can afford to go to court.

    we laughed and blocked her. as per his request. me, i wanted to chew her out but kept impartial in communications.
    I am expecting a flood of harrassment from her family and friends soon...she won't like being blocked...we plan to just block them also. what would you do?

    We have no details for her at all but she isthe kind who is hellbent on causing drama and trying to destroy lives with her games....which is why we cut her off out of our lives as we do not want our children around that kind of relationship or atmosphere.

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    Are you ok? Is your Df ok?

    This is just.... I have no words.

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    I am ok. im angry. its playing on my ming and mentally I'm prepping for battle.

    she's the type who would rock up on your doorstep or make reports to centrelink/child protection etc. (She laughed and said she had called centrelink saying her female room mate was living defacto with a guy and had her payments stopped over something trivial). just dispicable stuff like this.
    We have nothing to hide, so even if she tried she would get nowhere, but its the sort of thing she does.

    I'm more concerned about our children . i don't want her near them.

    df says he's ok but i think he's hurting . she sent a photo of a lady side on with a tumor covering the entire side of the face claiming its her....but df looked at it closely, zoomed in and swears its not her... (as an example of her games)
    i think he wants more info but I'm not sure how we could get it without more communication

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    That's awful. Had you considered some sort of police order against her in the past? Sounds like she will stop at nothing til she gets her way!

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    I would keep doing what you're doing. Delete and block.
    However I would take screen shots of everything and keep a diary of attempted contact, especially any kind that is threatening or abusive.
    Part of me thinks you could be very clear with her and say "DH does not wish to have contact with you". But then I think it's best not to engage with her at all.
    I think she sounds sick. But that's not an excuse for cr@p behaviour.

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    Oh my goodness. This is exactly the same as my mil who we also cut off years ago. Aside from the requesting $75k. She did request that we start giving her $50 a week once. Just because u know, she wanted more money 😕 She has also in the past lied and said she was dying ( we caught her out)

    My advice. Run for the hills. People like this never change. She made our lives hell for years - the stories i could tell! I feel for you!
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    Geez how awful. I'd say just keep doing what you are doing. Hopefully she leaves you alone xx

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    Quote Originally Posted by HopefulK View Post
    That's awful. Had you considered some sort of police order against her in the past? Sounds like she will stop at nothing til she gets her way!
    My first thought was go to the police. It can be taken as a threat (especially since she demanded money). And you have it in writing (have you kept it??)

    I'm sorry you are going through this.

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    Default cut off toxic mil. makes contact 4yrs later...

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