My son is very boisterous, can be loud but then also very quiet, obnoxious then extremely helpful and kind. He's so popular at school and is always helpful but if left to his own device for too long he gets in trouble.
He is super super intelligent , his teacher even sees this.
At home he can get very very angry and snap but also gets clingy. He is attached to certain clothes and very routined. He gets anxious and asks questions over and again for reassurance (eg when is the school bus coming) .
A lot of his friends parents say their sons are very similar and it's a boy thing. How much so? At what point do you worry?