Fortunately I have zero concerns about my parenting ability. ..doesn't mean I won't always strive to find information and ideas and that includes asking for other parents perspectives.
I guess I'm very sensitive about comments as my nearly 11 year looks about 15 and attracts a lot of head turns when we go out as she's very tall, brown with striking features. I just want her to be a girl without any self awareness for as long as humanly possible. That people might judge her for the clothes she wears or how she carries herself makes me so angry.
She doesn't look 13 and a grown man stated she looks like she wants s.ex attention. That scares the life out of me. This is why I don't want pics of DD like that on the net. And there are thousands of men like him, who think that way.
It shouldn't be that way but it is you can't change that. I can't stop 30 year old men looking at DD in shopping centres all I can do is try my best to protect her.
They are not s*xualising themselves. We are doing it. And telling them that they are doing it. When 99% of the time it is so far from the truth that they want s*xual attention.
Maybe she was showing off the length of her hair? A new leotard? Or maybe she is actually proud of how her body looks due to her training. Maybe its a progress shot of how far she has come?
And then to be told 'she is looking for s*xual attention' does not sit right with me.
We expect so much of them when we need to control ourselves.
OP I see those photos and think your DD is gorgeous and an instantly envious of her nails and hair! I have many friends with teen daughters and I have 3 teen nieces, all gorgeous and all have guidelines on what's appropriate or not to post and luckily none have had any problems ( 3 go to a private school who has a very strict social media policy and no provocative photos are allowed which definitely helps ) but their parents are very upfront and have put these guidelines in place and we have told them ( as employers) how important your social profile now is today
DS is only in kindy but even they had to sign a social media and iPad usage policy about what the school expects and what is appropriate which I think it's great starting so young!
Last edited by Elijahs Mum; 28-03-2016 at 15:23.
Like I said before we can go on a moral crusade all we want and talk about how it shouldn't be this way but it doesn't change the fact it is this way.
I guess it's each to their own.
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