I feel for you. This was my DD from the age of about 9 months to 2.5ish. It was a nightmare.
She was only interested in me. Would not let DH do anything for her unless I wasn't there. Her sleep was shocking. She needed me there to go to sleep and it would take nearly 2 hours some nights to get her to stay asleep long enough that I could sneak out of her room. I ended up giving up and sleeping in the spare room with her for about 9 months as she would go to sleep quicker and would wake at night, but as soon as she knew I was there, she'd go back to sleep instead of it taking an hour to settle her.
I hated it. It wears you down not having any time to yourself, time at night to wind down and I was so touched out as she was always just on me.
I ended up going hardcore as I just couldn't take it anymore and nothing gentle I tried worked. I warned her every night for a week that I was only going to sleep with her for X more nights. That we would read stories, have cuddles and then she had to get in her own bed and stay there. We had a few nights of tears, putting her back to bed and even holding her door shut before she got over it. It was hard and upsetting for us both, but it worked.
I still had to do everything for her, but I got my down time at night back and she went back to sleeping through which helped me cope with the day time clingyness.
My DD was younger, but if she was doing it now, I'd try a reward chart with a toy/bribe if her choosing if she stays in her bed for a week as she's 4 now and responds well to charts. If that won't work, would a timer help? I know now mine might want more and more cuddles, but now I say "just one more" and we count to 5 and she has to go in her bed. I think if you can just stay strong and consistent, it would only take a few days to break the habit. My only other suggestion is for you to go out and get your DH to out her to bed. Make a big deal of you going and she how she is for him.
Good luck OP. It's a tough gig sometimes.