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    Have not read other replies but as they speak another language my first gut feel is either

    1) cultural

    2) religious

    Your hubby has sibblings. No doubt if there realky is some issue at play it had been discussed at some level. Can he approach one of his sibblings and ask for some info?

    Religious .... are you the same religous belief to them? Do you still practice? Not many raise kids with any depth of religous upbringing these days. Could your kids have repeated something or said sone thing that up set them?

    Cultural .... you could ask similar questions to above.

    The older generation oz muh more aet in their ways and less likely to yield.

    When imigrants come to Australia it is not unusal for them to get caught in a 'time warp' and while things have changed bak in their home land they live day to day life like the day they left.

    There are so many variables it is hard to say without ibserving the situation as close as an outsider can.

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    I would reply to that text with this

    "The kids would be happy to come and see the bunny left at our house but more than that they would love to see you because they have been asking about you. When should we come around?"

    Then I would go over and see how things went before saying anything. If something happened while I was there I would live in the moment and call it out straight away. When you wait you are relying on someone memory to be as clear as yours of the event and opens you up to denial and different versions of the same event.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Janesmum123 View Post
    Can you not just ask them what's going on?
    I've tried. We just get ignored.

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    Yesterday marked one year since df's parents lost the plot and wrote him and our kids off. We haven't heard from them since.
    My boys still sometimes ask if they can see them (dd thankfully doesn't remember them) and I have just been truthful, as in "I'm really sorry but Dad isn't very happy with the way Nan and Pop were treating him and so we won't be seeing them for a little while"
    It's a very hard thing to deal with; df is still upset about the whole ordeal and that has consequences for our own little family. I guess we know why though, and that is helpful in that we aren't left in the dark and wondering what we did wrong.
    I would probably just ask straight up and see what they say. My gut says they will probably deny the whole thing, but then that might be helpful too as then maybe they will pull their ship together after a confrontation?

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    Is it possible that one of your siblings has said anything to them - truthful or otherwise?
    Some siblings can get very jealous and like to see their parents dissing the other sibling to the point that they will lie, abuse, etc.

    Just another thought that's all.

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