I need to vent......best to make yourself a cuppa. It's a long one..
hubby and I are pretty gutted & totally fed up with his family.
it appears that his parents have cut us off completely from the family for no reason that's obvious to us. We have been racking our brains to figure out what we have said or done. We had a family dinner a month ago and all seemed fine. We have always gotten on well, and now suddenly they have cut us off?? Last weekend at a family wedding we over heard them tell everyone in the family that they are selling up and took their other kids to look at their new house, (their house have been on the market for weeks!) We weren't invited? Nor were our children. At the wedding they were really short with us and didn't acknowledge our kids. It was so obvious that they have a problem with us, it was very embarrassing. They spoke about us to each other in their own language and the 'secret move' right in front of us! We are particularly upset. What make us really sad is, these are the only grandparents our kids have and our kids love seeing them( other ones passed away) and they have cut them off too?? They are not like this with any of the other kids or grandkids in the family, just us. To be honest, they have never gone out of their way to be good grandparents, our relationship had always been one sided. I have in particular fostered the relationship with them, never the other way round. I have always been the one to take the kids over to visit at least once a week as they love to see their grandmother (not so excited to see grandfather). When ever I have invited them over to our place, they would only ever come if I was offering something-dinner etc etc. I'm so done with this, I'm tired and fed up with having to do this. I don't understand why they can't just 'pop in' to visit without expecting anything. I'm even more upset now with how they are treating us. They aren't the type of people who like to discuss issues. They would rather cut you off and never see you again. They have done it to one of their other kids many years ago. So bizzare, I don't know how any mother or father can do this to their own flesh and blood. How can I deal with this in a dignified way without loosing my cool and looking like an idiot, which is what they would love to see. That's how they roll unfortunately. They are looking for us to snap back and cause a scene do they can turn this around on us. They have done it once before many many years ago, this time I'm wiser and fully aware of what they are up to. I'm don't want to let them away with it this time