I agree with @winsor. See if the reporter can mask your identity somehow. If she could/can, then I'd definitely do it
rockalee Oh my god what a stressful thing to go through, what ********* timing on his part. Congrats on your 4 eggs but your head must be a mess after that bombshell. Not the way he wants kids??? Like you have a choice? I hope he had a horrible hangover.
You should be able to see a counselor with your cycle if you can persuade him to go.
I am with Winsor and BIBV protecting you identity might be a good idea here. Also I would be slightly worried about the timing in that the travelling donors are out at the moment. Hopefully it doesn't turn out to be a negative angle re the comments by Professor Chapman about desperate couples willing to violate the law.
its a bit of a dilemma sharing your story in public isn't it. In so many ways you want to put it out there about just how hard this stuff actually is but if you are still going through it then that can be tricky as your headspace changes on a daily basis so you might be feeling gungho one minute and then the next want to withdraw from the world and not tell anyone anything. People need to know this stuff, they need to hear about all the things that it affects, and people who are in this predicament want to hear that they are not alone, so everyone wins from people speaking out. I would think really carefully also about going anon but I would take my hat off to you if you don't feel the need too. Whatever you decide its admirable @Caesardust.
One of the things Ive often noticed about stories of infertility/IVF etc is that often they have a happy ending. Now this is all great, but what about the real life stories of people who didn't get their baby. Its your worst fears thinking about that but actually the stories need to be told so that if you get to that, you can hear how others managed to get through it and have a happy life.
A friend who struggled to conceive sent me this link a while back and I thought it was one of the most honest accounts Ive heard..http://bbc.in/1q62s1N
I don't know if anyone here watches House of Cards, but in the latest season there was a classic line from Robin Wright (she's a cold biatch in the show) when asked by a mother of 2 little kids (an opposition party woman) if she ever regretted not having kids, she looked her in the eye and said "do you ever regret having them?"
Now I could never imagine actually saying that to someone but it did make me laugh and Ive filed it away just in case I need it one day
hope todays call is great news @rockalee
Blosson74! I'll let you know how it goes.
Thanks everyone for your words. I didn't realise so many others had issues with their menfolk too! I've not said anything to anyone IRL about his behaviour as I know it'll turn my friends and family against him and if we do make it through this, that'll make life untenable. @Caesardust I'm inclined to agree with others here - protecting your identity might be a good idea. Im not sure I'd want the world to know how hard it is while in the middle of the process - any negative spin or feedback would be too emotionally difficult. After the fact might be different but not while going through this.
tuxcat I saw that episode! That made me cackle so much, what a comeback line. Really highlights the assumptions and how personal and rude the question (do you regret etc) is in the first place. Zing!
And I totally agree, the women who don't have success with IVF should be represented much more, to show that there is a happy life without children and so that it doesn't seem like a miracle cure.
@Bongley I love that show!! Kevin Spacey and her are so absolutely brilliant in those characters, have you seen the end of the season of them watching that footage (won't spoil it if you haven't). The body language is superb. We waited a whole year to see the new season and then we had it polished off in two nights. So frustrating having to wait a whole year again for the next one!!!
you have your scan today don't you? Enjoy seeing manchego !!!
Kevin Spacey. S.exy
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