@rockalee I'm so sorry to hear of the stressful day you've had. It really is unacceptable that he would behave like that during such an important and already nerve wracking experience for you. I know what I'm like on a normal day with disrupted sleep due to a drunken dp if it was before Epu I would totally lose my shiz. I hope as the other lovelies have said that also he is feeling remorseful today and tomorrow when you're feeling better you can address it. Take care and know you are right to be upset about this.
Evening everyone. I was contacted today by a reporter from the abc who wants to do a documentary on the difficulties women like me and you experience in the ivf journey. She was really lovely and I managed to talk about a lot of the challenges ivf presents to us from a process and procedural point of view at the clinics as well as the emotional damage it causes as a result of the extreme hope and grief cycle. It was nice to be heard and so much of what I said was while I was thinking of all of you lovely ladies (of course I didn't mention anyone though so don't worry). She asked me if I'd be comfortable appearing on camera to do an interview. I said yes that would be ok but now I'm thinking of it more I really don't think it would be a good idea. I don't want people to pity me and I also don't want to have to talk about it all the time. Mind you I'm not sure if it would even go to air or if many people would watch it. Your thoughts??
If anyone is interested in sharing their story with her too please send me a private message. I felt like it was a good idea to give our struggle a voice but I'm not sure if others feel the same way.
Yes, we women are very much the stronger sex.
Men seem to use avoidance a lot as a coping mechanism. Unfortunately it's not helpful. @rockalea I am crossing everything for a good fert rate for you. My FS was a great believer in the less = better quality theory. He aimed for 6 or under. He would be massively happy with 4.
@rockalee I'm so sorry your DH is being an a.r.s.e that's totally unacceptable, no matter hoe nervous/anxious/wants to avoid it he is feeling, to do that the night before epu is so unsupportive.
On a positive note 4 is a great number and I hope you have great fert rates tmw xxxxx
@Caesardust I think it's good to tell our stories and make more people aware. but I don't think I could speak to the reporter myself. could they mask out your identity perhaps if you don't want to be recognized?
@rockalee I'm so sorry to hear about your DP's behaviour. It sounds horrendous. As the others have said I hope he is full of remorse and you guys can talk this through. He has handled it badly and I guess I wonder whether he doesn't want to lose you and has tried to go along with it.
I hope you get a great fert rate and will be watching the forum for an update.
@rockalee I'm also sorry to hear what's happened with your DP. Bloody poor form Luv, I have to say!! I hope he had the "Mother Of All Hangovers" too!!!!
In saying that, I hope counselling can help you both to get back on track with each other and perhaps allay his fears so he can be the support system you need. He needs to put his cards on the table one way or another so you know where you stand. Man the fruck up mate!!!
Anyhoo...I know you're disappointed with 4 eggs Luv, but 4's not that bad a number. Others have gotten their BFFP's with a lot less eggs than that to begin with!!! Plus you're going to do a DET as well
and prayers being sent they're 4 of the best and they all fertilise!!!!
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