I got home from work at 8am and so far have baked a caramel mudcake, vacuumed, set the table, made rissoles and cleaned the kitchen (twice).
Time to put the feet up before the family arrives.
Ps, thinking about quitting Facebook altogether- so over foetus pics!!!!
for all the Lovelies doing it hard today
Am thinking of you and sending much love and healing for your hurting heartsxoxoxoxo
At 2am I received an email from the ED agency. They've emailed Dr W to see if he'll treat an 18 year old virgin. Apparently some Drs have "indications" about it. I'm guessing that means some Drs are either hesitant or just simply won't. There is a gorgeously kind female FS at the CT clinic if needs be. I suggested to the agency that the ED has her internal scans done with the female FS. So we await Dr W's response hopefully on Tuesday.
I also found out that the ED's identical twin sister is also donating. I've asked for more info on this, and on the other 2 sets of twins in their family.
And yes, the ex is kicking up a stink re the money.
And I'm not quite sure what to do re sperm donors at the moment. They haven't recruited any new ones. I'll cross that bridge if I can actually secure this ED.
Im going to ask to have her AMH tested which I know might sound crazy but before forking out $12k plus on an unproven donor I'd like some peace of mind (ish!!).
I didn't wean off my meds, I just stopped, the first 2 days I felt amazing, today my head feels like it's going to burst off my shoulders, just taken Codeine, which for me says a lot.
Happy Eaater everyone and huge hugs and lots of chocolate to those struggling today, .
Hmmm, I don't get it. If the Doctors are hesitant to treat an 18 year old then why would she be on the ED list at all? Seems a bit odd to me
Bugger about your DH hesitating with the money. That sucks big time. Do you think it will take long for your financial settlement to be finalised? Perhaps you could put a rush on things and then you might have the funds available without having to get him on side at all?
I know what you mean about the worry of another cycle, the costs and wanting some reassurance. I guess I'm kind of in the same boat looking for a local ED. I am hoping that someone who either has kids or has donated before will put their hand up to help us. That would be reassurance enough for me. I would hope that an 18 year old would have a massive stash of eggs on board!
Sorry to hear you're not feeling well I'm a bit knackered myself. We got a full load of wood hauled out of the forest this morning and that's the second load for the weekend. I have scratches up both arms, am covered in bruises and everything hurts! Actually, I've just had a shower and got into my jammies. It will be an early night for me tonight I think...
Hugs to all of you finding things tough over easter even though im incredibly blessed i know how tough things are for many of my friends and im always hesitant to post too much on fb.
@Blossom74 I'm not sure whether it's b/c she's a virgin or b/c she's 18...or both?? I'm sure I'll find out soon enough. I'm guessing some clinics would treat her and some wouldn't. I'm wondering if it's a bit of an ethical dilemma for a FS too. I know I've spent time thinking about it.
Our financial settlement should take about 6 months all up I hope, that's providing we can avoid going to court. The worse case scenario is I take an IVF break for 6 months and then resume. I've just emailed my ex to let him know I've engaged a solicitor. He may now completely block releasing IVF money to me.
I hope a proven donor picks you and dh ASAP!! When do you expect to hear back from the bank?
Enjoy your early night, .
Thanks @Gagingi. Donor's state all sorts of lovely reasons for donating but they also get compensated $600-$700 which may not sound like much to us for putting yourself through an IVF cycle but does go some way towards South African uni/college fees, which for SA students, are quite expensive.
Thanks for your kind wishes @winsor. The next cycle feels like a long way off and of course will be stopped in it's tracks if my ex doesn't release any moula. Plus there's all the pre-testing the ED has to go through. But at least I know in my heart that I'm not finished. I thought I may have been.
Yeah @BlondeinBrisvegas that playsuit was a definite stop me in my tracks/sign from the universe. I think I'd lost sight of the possibility of a 'real' baby. I stood there completely determined that I wanted 18 y/o eggs which is a complete turn around from what I emailed all the ED clinics a few days prior. I'd said I absolutely wanted a donor who had created at least 6 blasts in her last cycle & have a pregnancy/live baby in her recipients history. @infinity888 I like the idea of a party in a petrie dish!!
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