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    Quote Originally Posted by Tahli View Post
    Girls, I'm really sorry I did a post and then ran. I've been down the coast in a national park for my sister's wedding, where I didn't have any phone or internet connection.
    To cut a long story short, my ex and I have reached a crux where we need to do our financial settlement asap. Unfortunately this means I won't have access to IVF funds until we've completed the settlement which all up I predict will be 6 months.
    Add to this, I've hit an all time low. Severely depressed. I think 4 failed ED transfers totaling 7 embryos has finally hit me. Time for a break.


    First of all hon, WELCOME BACK We have so missed seeing you here


    I did suspect that things might have come to a head with your ex regarding the settlement. I think it really sucks that you have to beg and grovel to him in order to try and do something so very personal, and I've really felt for you having to try and negotiate your way through that whilst also trying to keep things civil for your DS's sake. It is a tough road for sure and I think you deserve a bl00dy medal


    I really do hope things get sorted well before your 6 month prediction. I know when my DH and his ex split is was very messy and even though he basically handed everything to her on a platter she still didn't want to agree to anything purely out of spite! I am hoping things will be a bit more co-operative for you and your ex and that your financial matters are not so complex that the judge can sort it out for you quickly.


    Even if it does take six months - heck, even if it takes a year, it still doesn't rule out another shot for you once things are finalised money-wise. There is still hope hon! And just think how nice it would be to do the whole thing under your own terms. Yes, I am still very confident for you. It's NOT over yet hon.


    I am really sorry that you're having a bit of a sad time at the moment though. We are all here to support you. You have certainly given this IVF caper a red-hot go and it's really unfair that it hasn't worked for you so far. However I truly feel in my heart that there is hope. I wonder if you were a bit of a victim of poor circumstance and that those dear little embies were perhaps not meant to stay no matter where they were transferred. It is very sad but I am crossing everything for you and I am pretty confident that a brand new donor will give you your much longed for baby, and it will happen when the time is right.

    You have been through so much and I think it is important to allow yourself to feel that. It is ok to grieve and to fall in a heap sometimes. Just know that we are here to carry you when you cannot walk yourself.


    Big hugs for you hon.

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    On my ph on the way to the beach so will do a personal catch up tonight - quick rant do sorry if it's annoying !

    I'm absolutely done with Monash ivf.
    I had to get my scans done twice this morning as the person doing it the first time had never used the equipment before or done a follicle scan.

    No-one warned me that I had to pay $120 for each time I collect medication now, and I haven't got enough to for a full cycle do have to go back and pay again next week.

    I got sent a pack with the hospital forms but absolutely no cycle plan.
    I have no idea when each medication is supposed to be taken.
    Only the amount which was on the prescription.

    Totally this is just a coincidence with two nurses who don't know better but I just found it so insulting and stressful today.

    The whole process is hard enough. This is number 5 for me so at least I know what to expect but if it was your first time it would be really confronting.

    Going to the beach to have a surf and try to reframe my mindset.

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    @Tahli if you need to go to ground then that's ok.
    When you're ready to surface again we're here. If you want to pop your head up at any time and vent before heading back underground that's ok too.

    Look after yourself lovie and get back into a good head space again. See you when you're ready. xx

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    @Tahli i hope this enforced break brings new rejuvenation to your journey however that ends.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tuxcat View Post
    oh and @Bongley good luck for your scan (cant remember if its this week!!) and hope you're feeling better!
    Thanks @tuxcat yeah, my scan is on friday, taking yesterday off to rest and not spread this lurgy around helped I think. I had my first OB appointment today at the hypertension clinic at RPA and it is run by my ex-FS! So that's a comfort to see him there and know everything is being run past him as he knows me literally inside out Thought I'd got rid of that guy!

    So I passed my diabetes test and no high blood pressure (yet). I have to say, considering it's a public service, even though waiting around is a pain in the @ss, they are really very thorough and I do feel well cared for.
    @faithandhopellove I remember when MCG Bertie was despairing as she was the last of the old crew on the thread still trying to get duffed, everyone else had graduated, then she did that IUI!! Craziness. I joined just around that time.
    @Maxwellsmum ooh, exciting times! Good luck with your lining scan, glad this new way of finding donors is working out for you.
    @Tahli ah, that's what we thought had happened. What a difficult situation to be in and I'm sorry you've hit rock bottom, you've tried so hard to make this work. A break, as frustrating as it is, might be good for you for a while.
    @amie999 for the money we pay these places you'd think they'd get the basics right and have informed staff and a smooth process at least! Enjoy your surf
    @BlondeinBrisvegas the amount of patience you've had with your Ex is quite heroic I think, I hope your friend is helping to provide some light relief for you anyway

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    glad to hear from you @Tahli. I hope things go smoothly & quickly with your ex & the finances here on in. a break is good to reset your body too. I hope you can pop in when you have time to say hi
    @Aimee999 that's not good. yes, I'd expect the basic procedures to be in place. it's not like they haven't done this before. hopefully it was just a lack of training issue for the new staff
    @Bongley glad to hear your OB appt went well & you like the clinic and care

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    Hi @Tahli so nice to hear from you... I'm not sure if you will be following along while you take a breather from Bub Hub but I was wondering if you have had your TSH levels tested recently? The normal reference range for TSH varies a little between labs but it is usually somewhere around .4-4 but this is for the general population. Endocrinologists generally recommend a TSH closer to 1 for those trying to conceive. A high or low TSH can cause implantation failure and miscarriage but many fertility specialists don't seem to pick up on this and it flies under the radar. It is easy to correct with medication if it is a problem. Anyhow, I just thought I'd throw that out there as something else to possibly investigate as I'm really mystified as to why things haven't worked out for you so for (aside from possibility of dud donor eggs). Take care of yourself and I really wish you all the best - I know you will get your bubba in the end. You have been such an inspiration and remained so strong and positive throughout your difficult journey, but take the time to grieve, heal and rebuild from the disappointments, it may not seem like it at the time but sometimes a few months away from IVF can be a blessing in disguise. FFxx
    Last edited by Felicity Fox; 05-04-2016 at 16:13.

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    Quote Originally Posted by amie999 View Post
    On my ph on the way to the beach so will do a personal catch up tonight - quick rant do sorry if it's annoying !

    I'm absolutely done with Monash ivf.
    I had to get my scans done twice this morning as the person doing it the first time had never used the equipment before or done a follicle scan.

    No-one warned me that I had to pay $120 for each time I collect medication now, and I haven't got enough to for a full cycle do have to go back and pay again next week.

    I got sent a pack with the hospital forms but absolutely no cycle plan.
    I have no idea when each medication is supposed to be taken.
    Only the amount which was on the prescription.

    Totally this is just a coincidence with two nurses who don't know better but I just found it so insulting and stressful today.

    The whole process is hard enough. This is number 5 for me so at least I know what to expect but if it was your first time it would be really confronting.

    Going to the beach to have a surf and try to reframe my mindset.
    Have to say I have had massive problems with Monash in my last cycle. I really like my FS and nurse but admin staff are terrible!!!! Everything was stuffed up. Lost paperwork, wrong billing etc etc
    I sent through a formal complaint and did get some financial compensation but never an apology- they take no responsibility!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tahli View Post
    Girls, I'm really sorry I did a post and then ran. I've been down the coast in a national park for my sister's wedding, where I didn't have any phone or internet connection.
    To cut a long story short, my ex and I have reached a crux where we need to do our financial settlement asap. Unfortunately this means I won't have access to IVF funds until we've completed the settlement which all up I predict will be 6 months.
    Add to this, I've hit an all time low. Severely depressed. I think 4 failed ED transfers totaling 7 embryos has finally hit me. Time for a break.
    I wish you all well and @Chiefsgirl a gentle little kiss for your sweet baby girl's forehead. Big love, xx.

    I can't add anything more to what the other Lovelies haven't already said. I can see why you need to step away for a bit Luv and just want you to know that I'll miss you while you're on your sabbatical from BH

    I'll be here with bells on waiting for your return to the fold We're all here for you anytime, you know that and maybe you could touch base with us all from time to time either with a quick post or via Blossom with a quick message to let us know that you're still alive and kicking!!!

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    Awesome news @Bongley! Go the over 40's! DH has 2 younger work colleagues (late 20's and mid 30's) who are UTD. 1 has high BP and GD the other is being induced at 35 weeks due to cholestasis. It's terrible but I'm feeling rather smug. Me: over 40 - no issues.

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