Well, I think that is what EDA is ideal for (and facebook!) Although I have seen a few donors post (on the EDA FB page) that they pretty much want to remain as anonymous as possible and are worried that it would put off recipients, which I think is a bit cray cray as I think there are lots of recipients that want minimal contact, they just want the donor conceived child to be able to access their genetic history......
Yes, well our ad (once approved) actually states that we would be happy with either photos/milestone reports or no contact afterwards should the donor prefer that. It's not make or break but it would be nice to have something - even if it's just sending them a Christmas card each year. It is such a huge thing to go through for someone - physically and emotionally - and I would certainly feel endebted to our donor in that respect. It would be nice to give something back if you know what I mean. Not money - but photos or something would be nice. I hope, if we do find someone to help us, that they would understand the gratitude I would have for them. I cannot even put into words the impact that that sort of gift would have on our lives.
That's interesting @Bongley about the anonymous donors, I've always thought the opposite was true as you get the feeling putting that you don't want contact with the donor seems somehow rude. But then I guess those donors won't be posting much on the site so makes sense. That scented candle comment cracked me up!
that's great @Blossom74 about your extra work/hours. it's all falling into place & writing a book sounds like a good idea. go for it
(just catching up on posts)
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@infinity888 I hope you're not too sore atm and the tests went well
@faithandhopellove I hope your scan went OK & wasn't too emotionally draining for you. it must be so hard to see the little bubba too. I imagine it's a mixed feeling - happy and sad at same time. you're being so strong. hugs xx
afm I started looking at some of the donors on the SA sites last night and ended up in tears thinking how none looked like me as a kid and then crying for the loss of my genetics & is the universe sending us a message. selfish thoughts. why couldn't there be just one good egg left for our natural cycles/attempts for a natural miracle - I think my body is trying to stay pg. one looked slightly like my sister/niece but she was a smoker and had A blood type and I'm not sure how that goes with my O. I haven't posted on EDA yet. does everyone need to get their ad approved by govt or is it just Victorians? I need to read more about the procedures. I think I'd be one of those no contacts but possible future contact by the child if they should choose to. & I need to check if I can get my medical records from RPA or if I need to do all the tests again as they might be close to a year old now. not making much progress - going very slowly atm
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