@Faithandhopelove enjoy seeing big bubba today. Your strength is amazing xx
You just never know what a potential donor might be looking for though hon. I mean, as a potential recipient I can see huge variations of how people post up their ads, and not all of them will appeal to every donor. There could well be a nice person out there thinking "Wow, all these ladies are so overwhelmingly confident, I wish there was someone more down to earth here that I could help!"
You just never know. That's why I don't put on any airs and graces in my posts. I am what I am, and I'm hoping someone will see past my slightly dry sense of humour and see the good person behind it.
You really lucked out I reckon - to meet such a lovely person that you can have some sort of relationship afterwards is the ideal for us. Not that we want to constantly in contact, but to be able to go back and say "Hey, do you have a history of xxx in your family? Oh, and by the way, xxx started walking today - here's a pic!" would be really nice.
Well, I think that is what EDA is ideal for (and facebook!) Although I have seen a few donors post (on the EDA FB page) that they pretty much want to remain as anonymous as possible and are worried that it would put off recipients, which I think is a bit cray cray as I think there are lots of recipients that want minimal contact, they just want the donor conceived child to be able to access their genetic history......
Yes, well our ad (once approved) actually states that we would be happy with either photos/milestone reports or no contact afterwards should the donor prefer that. It's not make or break but it would be nice to have something - even if it's just sending them a Christmas card each year. It is such a huge thing to go through for someone - physically and emotionally - and I would certainly feel endebted to our donor in that respect. It would be nice to give something back if you know what I mean. Not money - but photos or something would be nice. I hope, if we do find someone to help us, that they would understand the gratitude I would have for them. I cannot even put into words the impact that that sort of gift would have on our lives.
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