@Tahli good on you for going through with the Hydrothingmebobby and getting through it without a GA! Well done! I am a huge sook when it comes to pain or getting anything done, (which is why I cancelled my hysteroscopy even though it was being done under GA!!!) so good on you for following through and crossing that one of the list, woohoo!
@Blossom74 well done on getting that loan through, that must be a huge sigh of relief and now you can just get on with finding a donor, yay!
I'm feeling pretty positive but am a bit distressed that now I look like I have to make another choice and I was hoping to not have to.. But it's a good choice to have to make! Any help or advice would be appreciated!
Option 1) My friend as a known donor in Aus. Early thirties, very healthy, lovely girl who I would be honoured to be gifted with her eggs, features are a little different as she is a little taller and thinner than me, but blue eyes, dark blonde hair and an attractive girl. No pregnancies and not interested in having children herself, but seems to be quite keen to donate to me. She's back in Australia in June and could possibly get started on a June cycle, all going well. Costs would be similar to a DE South Africa cycle from what I can tell, but we will be doing the cycle locally, so no travel costs for us or for her.
Option 2) South Africa DE. 21 year old donor, not donated before but has two children herself. Physical features very similar and we look alike as children and have the same blood group and interests in life. DH and I can only get away in August, so we wouldn't be able to cycle before then. As has happened with a few ladies here, if the first cycle fails, then it is repeated trips back to SA to keep trying, versus local FETs. But 21 year old eggs are very attractive!
My thoughts are to potentially move towards doing a cycle here in June with my friend, but keep SA as a back up and pay my deposits and secure my donor, but don't book flights etc until after I know if the June cycle has worked. If my friend doesn't respond well, or we don't get any quality embryos etc, then we can move forward with SA very quickly. If it does work, then I lose some deposits for the donor and Cape Town fertility, but I don't think I'd be that much out of pocket.