+ Reply to Thread
Page 1 of 3 123 LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 23
  1. #1
    Join Date
    Jul 2010
    Location
    on a sandy beach!
    Posts
    6,418
    Thanks
    338
    Thanked
    2,217
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts

    Default WWYD- fil cut us off/ignoring

    This will be long sorry.

    At Christmas I asked fil & his partner take kids to zoo they never did. Always asking them do things they say they will get back me etc never do. Unless it's to big note them self. Eg they bought car seats but the kids have never even been in them? Like why even buy them! At Christmas I asked if they could give $20 towards bikes instead of whatever they wanted because we wanted decent presents not Kmart junk eg 20 X $3 presents. I find it offensive. As kids don't play with it.

    As most know (who follow my posts anyway) know we have moved interstate again.

    DH left before us as we wanted to secure employment, then a house. (He already had the job but the probation)

    I then had to clean, fix, pack, look after kids on my own. Very tiring as most would know who have had to do this!! Army mums/Fifo mums or single mums! I saw most people but it was hard I was in a rush. Flustered etc. FIL Said he couldn't help at all but would catch up. He never did but had dinner with SIL. Mil minded kids so I could do a final clean. That night SIL went out with FIL (they are divorced). So I thought that was strange. Cos the kids weren't visited. (They are a close divorced family) we do xmas's etc).

    My FIL has proceeded to ignore us from Jan. We are now in Launceston. There's been a miscommunication. We have sent text messages.) been ignored. He isn't speaking to us. I sent a text last week saying hello blah blah.

    I can't drive. So when I was busy cleaning, packing etc. I was meant to get to his house 2 hours away. He told MIL he's cut us off. I'm hurt for DH. But was DS's second birthday and he didn't even call for that. Should I just leave it? Thanks.

  2. #2
    Join Date
    Feb 2012
    Location
    Brisbane North
    Posts
    4,461
    Thanks
    1,581
    Thanked
    1,803
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Sorry he's such a a/hole. Some people were born that way. What does your dh think? I think it's up to him to say something to be honest.

    I wouldn't ask him to do anything else for the kids as you know what the result will be. My own parents are like this.. they think maybe once a year taking them for 2 hours is making it ok... well it's not and i'm beginning to say so and to hell with the consequences really.

  3. #3
    Join Date
    Jan 2012
    Posts
    1,171
    Thanks
    522
    Thanked
    731
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Sad, especially as it's unresolved. I personally would step back and leave it up to DH to decide.

  4. #4
    Join Date
    Feb 2015
    Posts
    2,272
    Thanks
    2,720
    Thanked
    1,591
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts

    Default WWYD- fil cut us off/ignoring

    He might be offended about your xmas present request... There have been several threads about present buying. Still it's pretty childish to let that fester and not say goodbye before you moved.

  5. #5
    Join Date
    Jul 2015
    Location
    Sunshine Coast
    Posts
    2,963
    Thanks
    2,383
    Thanked
    2,071
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    I haven't spoken to my own father in over 10 years. Personally I wouldn't bother chasing him, if your FIL wanted to see you, your DH or his grandchildren he would have. Don't waste your time, concentrate on your own little family, he will miss out on his grandchildren.

  6. The Following User Says Thank You to Marchbundle For This Useful Post:

    Cicho  (21-03-2016)

  7. #6
    Join Date
    Oct 2010
    Posts
    10,163
    Thanks
    3,155
    Thanked
    6,074
    Reviews
    2
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    Awards:
    100 Posts in a week
    Do you know exactly why he has cut you guys off? Has he expressed his exact issue to other family members?

    I wouldn't chase after him if I had no clue why he cut contact. I don't have time for that kind of nonsense from a grown adult.

  8. #7
    Join Date
    Feb 2009
    Location
    my house
    Posts
    17,914
    Thanks
    1,414
    Thanked
    7,562
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 postsRuby Star - 15,000 posts
    Maybe he was annoyed about being asked to do things all the time.

  9. The Following User Says Thank You to BigRedV For This Useful Post:

    DarcyJ  (24-03-2016)

  10. #8
    Join Date
    May 2013
    Posts
    8,211
    Thanks
    5,667
    Thanked
    4,754
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Awards:
    Busiest Member of the Week - week ended 17/4/15100 Posts in a week
    Quote Originally Posted by BigRedV View Post
    Maybe he was annoyed about being asked to do things all the time.
    Maybe, but that's a bit unreasonable. They're his grand kids! It's not like Monnie is asking him to look after them while she's at work, it's taking the kids for an outing or coming to visit.

    Sorry he's being such a douche Monnie, I agree with PPs and I'd not bother trying anymore. As disappointing as it is for your kids, he's obviously sent a clear message he is happy to not be involved in their lives.

  11. #9
    Join Date
    Jul 2010
    Location
    on a sandy beach!
    Posts
    6,418
    Thanks
    338
    Thanked
    2,217
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by BigRedV View Post
    Maybe he was annoyed about being asked to do things all the time.
    Seriously? It came up in convo at Christmas and he seemed interested but had to 'check' both schedules as they work.

    DH said he needs to put his effing man pants on and gtfu but I don't feel this way as its family and I feel hard to let go of situations like this as they are only grand kids so far.

    He only told SIL & MIL. He didn't even text us and say hey xyz I'm upset I didn't get to catch up before we left its upset me. Instead he is ignoring us.

    My DH is ready to just cut him completely and MIL respects his decision.

  12. #10
    Join Date
    Oct 2015
    Posts
    1,026
    Thanks
    797
    Thanked
    785
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Just to put another perspective on things, maybe he has other problems in his life and you guys are being caught in the fall out somehow.
    Last edited by SSecret Squirrel; 22-03-2016 at 12:09.


 

Similar Threads

  1. Which is better and WWYD?
    By Mod-Nomsie in forum General Chat
    Replies: 24
    Last Post: 01-11-2015, 20:26

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
sales & new stuffsee all
Be In Blossom
Keen to up the intensity of your exercise after having your baby but unsure how? New physio-led Bootcamp Workshops aim to bridge the gap between low and high intensity training, teaching ways to reduce pelvic floor load in gym and bootcamp settings.
featured supporter
ProSwim
ProSwim Rostrevor runs learn to swim classes for children and adults. Lessons are run during the Summer months (Oct-Mar). Our indoor centre at Plympton Park has lessons all year round, including school holidays.
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!