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    I'm wondering what people's hobbies are and also their OH's?

    My DH has always played sport. Golf and soccer since we met. He no longer plays soccer but still plays golf.

    I've never had any hobbies. Really, I haven't. It's never been a problem up until we became parents as he continues to play golf once a week (and on EVERY public holiday) yet I've not got a thing.

    I have just recently started a TAFE course so I go in one night a week for 1 subject but I'm always home to put DD down to sleep (DH puts DS to sleep before I'm home) and I'm doing a second subject externally so my study is done after the kids are in bed or during my lunch breaks at work.

    So he still has more time out from being at work and being a parent than I do, and I'm beginning to resent that.

    Anyone else like me, or do those of you with partners who have their own thing to do independently, balance it out by also having time just to yourself as well?

    Or anyone like me but they're okay with it? How can I become more ok with it?

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    The only real way is to find something that's for you. My DH has so many interests and hobbies. I had work and my friends. Then I had kids. And outside of kids I had nothing.

    I found the adjustment really hard until the kids started school and you almost develop interests through that. I was very involved with the school and with work that kept me busy.

    I now cross fit 3 or 4 mornings a week and it's my thing. I love it. Once my kids get older and I'm less exhausted I want to see how fit I can get from it. We spend most weekends with the kids at the park or beach doing or playing sport. My eldest practices sprints with DH the others run or do gymnastics.

    So I guess I've finally found peace with what I can do away from work. It's only taken me 10 years 😝

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    My DH has car club and i have my crossfit bootcamp 2 nights a week. Once DS is a little older i want to do more exercise classes maybe x2 during the day (9.30am) but he sleeps at that time now

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    You don't need to have a hobby to be allowed some down time! Most of my hobbies don't necessitate leaving the house or taking time out from the kids- I like reading, cooking, sewing, and running and I do most of those when the kids are asleep or at other times they're not actually bothering me. DP's hobbies are similar- he likes playing video games, various artistic endeavors and plays indoor soccer once a week- but it's in the evening when the kids are asleep, mostly. We still make sure that each of us gets down time away from the kids on the weekends- either by going out with friends or one of us taking the kids out so the other can enjoy a quiet, peaceful house!

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    I do card making, blogging, learning auslan atm. I also volunteer in an op shop too.
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    I'm in the same boat as you A-Squared. And i do resent Dh a bit but it's my own fault really for not putting myself first occasionally. My oldest is 5 and I've only just recently starting walking with a friend 1 night a week/fortnight. Apart from that it was only the odd shopping trip where i would get some "me time". Dh is always happy to have the kids while i do something but I've never made it a priority. After work, housework, kids activities, Dh's sport and social events they're never seemed to be time. I've realised i need to make the time and I'm intending on starting yoga 😊

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    Before kids I participated in various forms of Motorsport. My hobbies these days are crochet, baking, photography. I tend to do most of it late at night once the kids are in bed while hubby is playing Xbox. He doesn't really have any other hobbies.

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    I'm in the same boat and both my kids are adults and left home! I spent 20 years raising 2 kids as a SAHM. I literally devoted 20 of my 43 years of age to my kids. Now I'm super lost. I don't have hobbies nor do I really want to do anything. I work 2 days a week but that's it. My marriage is more flat mates than anything and I don't have any friends to do coffee , lunch or movies with.

    I really struggle to answer the What do you do for fun. Question. I don't do anything fun.

    Physically I'm over weight and have severe knee issues which makes exercising/ walking almost impossible. I find I just go through the motions of each day as I have to'

    So I totally understand mums who feel lost or feel they don't have hobbies. It's hard !

    I hope you lovely ladies with young little people can find a balance between motherhood and being yourself! It's so important and I wish someone had told me 20 years ago that it's ok to be yourself and do something for yourself weekly

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    Ive tried plenty of things over the years...the local council buildings often have short courses...I did a pottery one that was great and not too expensive.

    My hobby now is roller derby.
    One of the best things I ever did was join roller derby. Its challenging, fun and something that is ALL MINE. Theres so much support from everyone in the league and would recommend finding a derby league to EVERYONE. No you don't need to know how to skate...they teach you everything. No you will not be hitting each other first up...contact doesn't start til well into the second level.

    Anyway, ill shut up about roller derby...finding a hobby is easy. Decide whether u want to do something physical or mental and google whats in your area.

    Good luck

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