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    Everyone loses some friends when they have kids. It sucks. But some people can't accept that they aren't #1 in your life anymore.

    I would leave it and assume she's not coming. You've made an effort. She hasn't. I sure as hell wouldn't pay for a ticket for her ever again even if she starts to try.

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    She hasn't bought the ticket, she isn't coming and given you've paid for the home journey she's dodging you like the plague. This isn't ok on several levels. Firstly she needs to just be honest and stop giving you the run around. Second she should never have had you set up the return ticket if she hadn't even got leave or paid her way. I would be really upset on both levels.

    Different circumstances but I'm going through a similar situation with a very old friend who has fallen off the radar with me. She has not returned messages and ignored me for months despite there not being an arguments or obvious issues. I'm done with the friendship, I refuse to keep chasing her.

    My advice is to send one last message saying look, given you aren't returning my messages it's clear you aren't coming. I'm going to try to salvage the plane ticket by using it for X/credit. I would have loved to have seen you, enjoy Easter. Then let her go. If she reconnects then good, but I suspect the friendship is ending

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    So you think she is coming but not intending to visit you? Either way I'd be telling her you are essentially taking the ticket back. If she isn't coming then she has no use for it, if she is coming and is just planning on avoiding you, for her to then fly back on your ticket then she doesn't deserve it.

    I'm sorry you are hurting, I can feel it in your posts. All I can say is I understand.
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    I think she will fake sickness

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wise Enough View Post
    I think she will fake sickness
    It's laughable! Faking sickness, having to consciously stay off Facebook for the whole long weekend (op mentioned she is a frequent poster), so much effort when she could of just said "sorry op....xyz is going on... I won't be able to make it".

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    I don't get it. So she is still coming, and spending 2 nights with you, and hasn't said or done anything that really ever suggested otherwise....? And she has also arranged for someone to pick her up and drop her to your place (meaning you don't have to make the long trip to the airport?). I'm not sure that 'constant facebooking' is an indicator that she is avoiding you. Sorry, OP, I'm absolutely not doubting that your feelings are real but as an outsider (and just from what you've written) I can't help but think you are being a little unreasonable and perhaps a little paranoid.
    I hope the weekend works out well and you can either rekindle your friendship or move on from it without any regrets.

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