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    Default Attending wedding 3 weeks after birth?

    We've been invited to a relatives wedding. It's 3 weeks after my elective caesarean. DD 3yo isn't invited but they've said I can take the baby. I'm in two minds. On one hand I can take the newborn so feeding will be fine and leaving DD with the grandparents won't be a problem. On the other hand I'm not sure I want to take the new baby out to a wedding of over 100 people before the 2 month shots. Also I'm not sure I'll be up to getting all dressed up for a wedding at 3 weeks post birth (definitely wouldn't have been with DD as I had PND and major feeding issues). Just looking for some opinions to help me decide; wwyd?

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    If it was me, I wouldn't go. I'm one of these mothers that like to hide away in my little 'safe zone' until around the 6week mark. Whooping cough was always a major factor in these decisions, sends my anxiety through the roof. I'm also prone to breastfeeding difficulties so it would not have been possible for me. Would just attending the ceremony be an option if you don't feel comfortable attending the whole thing?
    Having said that, my cousin came to ours 5weeks pp and both mum and bub were happy.

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    Default Attending wedding 3 weeks after birth?

    I had an almost identical situation- invited to a wedding 3 weeks after due date and I had an almost 3yo BUT I could bring her along.

    As I wasn't overly close (cousin) I opted out and had no regrets.

    I think it depends on a few things- whether you're comfortable breastfeeding that soon in public, how easy is it to get a babysitter, is there many family or friends there to hold bubs for you, plus you probably won't be driving yet.

    Getting a baby out in the newborn stage where they can sleep through anything is easier than older bubs/toddler.

    But if you have any worries it's easiest to decline, they'll understand I'm sure

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    Also there is nothing worse than RSVPing you can go but then have to cancel at last minute!

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    I flew myself and DD3 interstate when she was 3 weeks old for my best friends wedding (was meant to be a bridesmaid but turned it down). I also had a c/section but was fine. Had a great time, DD3 slept practically the whole wedding and only woke for feeds. I just made sure I took my capsule and sling so I alternated between the both so everyone wasn't trying to hold her.

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    My sister booked her wedding after I announced that I was UTD with my first. She booked it for 5 weeks after my due date because apparently that was enough time (she doesn't have kids what would she know?). I ended up being 2 weeks overdue, and an emergency c-section. But I was her only bridesmaid so I had no choice. Total nightmares. Hated every minute of it. Had my 3 week old baby passed around hundreds of strangers with my boobs bursting. And my sister was a biatch about it, even asking me to "shut it up" when he cried during her make up session. Arh. I still haven't forgiven her.

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    I was a bridesmaid when DS was 3 weeks old! Glad I did it (beautiful, amazing friend) but it was intense. Natural birth but I haemorrhaged so had really only just got back on my feet. Other than feeding DS at the reception he just slept in the pram (the entire time).

    It's totally ok to not want to go!

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    Default Attending wedding 3 weeks after birth?

    I'm 3 weeks post birth with a c sect right now. there's no way I'd be up for a wedding. but I know there'll be plenty of ladies on here who will say the opposite and encourage you to go. it's totally up to you and how you're feeling. as its your second you may feel better equipped to dealing with a new born and thus ok to go. I'm 3 weeks out with my first and would feel it's too soon. do what feels right.
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    No way would I do that. But I don't recover well, I also struggle with sleep deprivation severely. I also would still be in pain and between walking, standing, feeding and having to socialise and organise other kids sleeping arrangements, nope wouldn't happen.

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    I went to a wedding 7 weeks after DD was born and it was ok. Wasn't great but it was do-able even with traveling interstate to get there. At 3 weeks I'd probably go to a wedding if I didn't have to travel far and it was someone close to me getting married, otherwise i'd decline.


 

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