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    My kids do a lot of stuff too, almost as much as that but not quite. But they built up to it as they got older. They didn't do that much when the 3rd was before school aged, but mostly because I felt they were too young. 6yo IMO is too young for a busy schedule.

    If it is not suiting your family, IMO I would do swimming plus an arty one (dance or gym) and a sporty one (rugby or tennis).

    I keep up with our busy schedule atm because the kids love it so much. Term 3 onwards though I get pretty over it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CMF View Post
    My kids do a lot of stuff too, almost as much as that but not quite. But they built up to it as they got older. They didn't do that much when the 3rd was before school aged, but mostly because I felt they were too young. 6yo IMO is too young for a busy schedule.

    If it is not suiting your family, IMO I would do swimming plus an arty one (dance or gym) and a sporty one (rugby or tennis).

    I keep up with our busy schedule atm because the kids love it so much. Term 3 onwards though I get pretty over it.
    Yes I think it's too much. He's even doing 2 swimming lessons this term as he's doing with school as well as Saturday. I think dropping tennis makes sense he can pick it back after the rugby season. Dp would sign them up for everything but he's not the one taking them and toddler to most of them and trying to fit in homework / play / dinner etc... Dance is before school so just a double drop off and I love the idea that he's keen to try something different.
    I think swim dance and gym ok for 9 yo and being drop offs not so bad with toddler but will discourage her picking up another sport! Unless pssa with school...
    Thanks all I appreciate the input it's not just me being soft 😉

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    Seems like a lot of extra activities. My son does 1 activity during the week. Occasionally that activity will take up most of 1 Saturday or Sunday every few months but between school, homework, down time needed and me with my work hours, I would struggle as would kiddo to take on any more.

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    I have found as my kids get older they have got more involved in more sports, and the time commitment is greater.
    My DD (12) is doing the least she has ever done - just Calisthenics, although by term 3 she's training up 15+hrs per week. She is also in a specialist sport program at highschool so doing 1.5-2hrs PE a day.
    My DS10 does basketball, AFL (twice/week) and BMX.
    My DS4 does swimming and BMX.
    I'm a single mum and crazy busy..it was trickier when DS2 was a baby/toddler, but that's just how it is with 3rd children! They get dragged everywhere!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Freyamum View Post
    Yes I think it's too much. He's even doing 2 swimming lessons this term as he's doing with school as well as Saturday. I think dropping tennis makes sense he can pick it back after the rugby season. Dp would sign them up for everything but he's not the one taking them and toddler to most of them and trying to fit in homework / play / dinner etc... Dance is before school so just a double drop off and I love the idea that he's keen to try something different.
    I think swim dance and gym ok for 9 yo and being drop offs not so bad with toddler but will discourage her picking up another sport! Unless pssa with school...
    Thanks all I appreciate the input it's not just me being soft
    Oh ok some of it's school stuff? I let that stuff go through with no issues, I don't really count it as 'extracurricular activities' when I'm determining yes or no. But yes the early drop offs are quite painful! DD does school band before school twice a week. Dance groups are often before school too but not this year for us.

    Look if you are really struggling then you need to say no to them. But tbh 3 kids is busy!! Though you've mostly got just 2 in activities atm. Wait 'til you've got three lol

    I also think it differs from region to region. Where I live (in Sydney also) kids tend to be participate in many after school activities. It's just the norm around here. So I guess that makes it more difficult to say no to them as well.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CMF View Post
    Oh ok some of it's school stuff? I let that stuff go through with no issues, I don't really count it as 'extracurricular activities' when I'm determining yes or no. But yes the early drop offs are quite painful! DD does school band before school twice a week. Dance groups are often before school too but not this year for us.

    Look if you are really struggling then you need to say no to them. But tbh 3 kids is busy!! Though you've mostly got just 2 in activities atm. Wait 'til you've got three lol

    I also think it differs from region to region. Where I live (in Sydney also) kids tend to be participate in many after school activities. It's just the norm around here. So I guess that makes it more difficult to say no to them as well.
    That's interesting we are in Sydney too, but my kids seem to be doing more than our friends. Mr6 isn't sporty at all and that's why he's ended up quite busy as if he shows any interest we encourage him! It's not the hours I guess that's the issue its that the activities are spread out so 30mins of tennis on the same day as ms9 gym means me preparing snacks, hanging around for 20mins before tennis, chasing toddler around for 30mins during, then we get stuck in traffic and home for just 30mins before out again for gym and not home preparing dinner until 6.20. Sometimes we go to playground/library near gym instead of home inbetween but an hour can be too long especially if lib with crazy toddler running wild!
    Someone needs to open a multi purpose sports centre with play areas for younger ones so they can do all their sports at the same time in the same place! Tbh it's mostly all the driving (I hate driving), getting squirming toddler in/out car multiple times a day and hanging around in small or unsafe spaces that is the main bit I have an issue with. So exhausting for me, unfair to poor bub, and takes up so much time that fitting in homework and free play is a struggle! And now I feel too bad to make them help at home as I can see they are worn out...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Freyamum View Post
    That's interesting we are in Sydney too, but my kids seem to be doing more than our friends. Mr6 isn't sporty at all and that's why he's ended up quite busy as if he shows any interest we encourage him! It's not the hours I guess that's the issue its that the activities are spread out so 30mins of tennis on the same day as ms9 gym means me preparing snacks, hanging around for 20mins before tennis, chasing toddler around for 30mins during, then we get stuck in traffic and home for just 30mins before out again for gym and not home preparing dinner until 6.20. Sometimes we go to playground/library near gym instead of home inbetween but an hour can be too long especially if lib with crazy toddler running wild!
    Someone needs to open a multi purpose sports centre with play areas for younger ones so they can do all their sports at the same time in the same place! Tbh it's mostly all the driving (I hate driving), getting squirming toddler in/out car multiple times a day and hanging around in small or unsafe spaces that is the main bit I have an issue with. So exhausting for me, unfair to poor bub, and takes up so much time that fitting in homework and free play is a struggle! And now I feel too bad to make them help at home as I can see they are worn out...
    Yep I know what you mean, with all of that! I will only let them do activities that are in our suburb (except soccer games). Although Sydney traffic is hideous, but it still means that it's only about 10 minutes drive to each thing.
    The doubling up of days sucks! Tuesday and Friday are our worst- Tuesday is dancing 4-6, then Cubs 630-830, so only half an hour in between to squeeze in dinner, which is really only 10 minutes between driving. Then Fridays is going to be (when soccer starts soon)- drop DD at dancing at 4, drop DS2 at soccer training 515, pick DD up from dancing 6pm, pick DS2 up 615, drop DS1 at Scouts 7pm, pick DS1 up 9pm. Ergh. I don't know how the end of the week got to be our busiest day! Other weekdays we only have single activities so it is manageable.

    I do go home inbetween drop off/pick up. I usually prep/cook dinner, or do some housework, or help with homework, or just sit and have a cuppa if I feel I need the break.

    Having late dinners on some nights is what I dislike the most about the activities, as it sets everything back- their bedtime, my bedtime. When I mealplan I try to plan quick dinners on these nights, or something that I can cook while they're out and it can sit in the saucepan until we get home.

    Also as they get older it gets easier, as I can leave some of them at home, I no longer have to pile everyone in the car every time.
    This makes a big difference for homework and down time, as they can do this while they're at home regardless if I'm there or not.
    And then for the child getting ferried around, we get to have a 1-1 chat. Not for long of course, but in a 3-kid household, they relish the time they get to chat to me without being interrupted by someone else!

    As for my kids doing housework, mine are generally feeling ok to do housework. Maybe you need to keep an eye on your kids to see if they are getting too tired from activities, and cut it down if they are. It's only term 1! They get more tired as the year goes on.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CMF View Post
    Yep I know what you mean, with all of that! I will only let them do activities that are in our suburb (except soccer games). Although Sydney traffic is hideous, but it still means that it's only about 10 minutes drive to each thing.
    The doubling up of days sucks! Tuesday and Friday are our worst- Tuesday is dancing 4-6, then Cubs 630-830, so only half an hour in between to squeeze in dinner, which is really only 10 minutes between driving. Then Fridays is going to be (when soccer starts soon)- drop DD at dancing at 4, drop DS2 at soccer training 515, pick DD up from dancing 6pm, pick DS2 up 615, drop DS1 at Scouts 7pm, pick DS1 up 9pm. Ergh. I don't know how the end of the week got to be our busiest day! Other weekdays we only have single activities so it is manageable.

    I do go home inbetween drop off/pick up. I usually prep/cook dinner, or do some housework, or help with homework, or just sit and have a cuppa if I feel I need the break.

    Having late dinners on some nights is what I dislike the most about the activities, as it sets everything back- their bedtime, my bedtime. When I mealplan I try to plan quick dinners on these nights, or something that I can cook while they're out and it can sit in the saucepan until we get home.

    Also as they get older it gets easier, as I can leave some of them at home, I no longer have to pile everyone in the car every time.
    This makes a big difference for homework and down time, as they can do this while they're at home regardless if I'm there or not.
    And then for the child getting ferried around, we get to have a 1-1 chat. Not for long of course, but in a 3-kid household, they relish the time they get to chat to me without being interrupted by someone else!

    As for my kids doing housework, mine are generally feeling ok to do housework. Maybe you need to keep an eye on your kids to see if they are getting too tired from activities, and cut it down if they are. It's only term 1! They get more tired as the year goes on.
    Oh Lordy your Friday's sound horrid!! How old are your kids? I guess I wouldn't mind it so much if didn't have to drag everyone with us! We've nothing on Friday which is one really good thing 😀

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    Default School kids + toddler...

    That's waaaaay too much OP!

    Let them have some home time.

    My ds is 6 and wants to do auskick & soccer plus swimming.

    I won't be taking him to auskick training, only the games. So that lessens the load a little.

    Next year, he has to pick which sport he likes best, he can't do both. Then he can try nippers over summer , karate or a musical instrument.

    I have 3 boys so hopefully they'll enjoy the same sports once they're all school age!

    I give you credit for doing it this long!


 

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