Help! So DS repeated his major mistake again and mentioned that particular "forbidden" word to his teacher today. His class has two teachers in his class (job share - 2 days & 3 days). From the pattern that I notice (pretty subjective i'd say), on the days he has this particular teacher in class (mrs A), he'd start behaving defiantly because of a small matter. One thing I feel about DS is that he seems to be holding a small grudge towards mrs A because of a small matter. So every time he gets told off or warned by her he'd get angry and would not accept the fact that he was wrong. The first 'forbidden word' incident was also directed towards mrs A (poor mrs A).
His other teacher (MRs B),is on he other hand the teacher that DS has a soft spot for. It just seems during mrs b's class he would always behave slightly better (still has silliness, bu not totally inappropriate).
Mrs A approached me today and briefly said "well he got upset with me today, and he said XXXXXXX (those forbidden words) and I have to write it down in the school book about that ". I haven't asked in details why he got upset, I assume it's another school rules, etc things that DS got warned about. Mrs A was too busy to attend to other kids after we spoke...
I asked DS today (in a stern voice) why did you do that to Mrs A, although you got upset you shouldn't have said those words because they were not acceptable. Well this is DS's version (quoting exactly what he was saying): "Mrs A was mean to me, she told me to work on the school work... on a book.... (I assume he meant the school activities like writing, etc) and then I stopped doing it because i didn't want do do it anymore .. it's taking ages to finish it off...but she told me "WORK!" and I didn't like it.. she was mean to me ... she was mean to me". I told DS what he needed to work on just then was part of school activities and rules, so no negotiations why he could get away not doing it at all. And also, DS repeated his silly behaviour again by making silly voice like blablablala......that also contributed to another daily warning.
I think MRs A didnt raise her voice or did anything out of the line when she told DS, it was just DS' problem that never accepted things easily. well, I know that DS has had enough of daily warnings etc, that's why I told him no more silly stuff and just follow the school rules if you don't want your teachers to tell you off!
Over this repeated incident today, I've felt like I have been branded as a parent who is raising a potential gunman. I feel like digging a hole and let the earth swallow me.
Our family is never exposed to a slightest bit of violence. NO violent TV/ipad for DS. He knows super heroes, but not a die hard fan. He is used to reading books, colouring, counting, writing, arts and crafts etc, at home so there's no way he finds them hard to do at school. He has a toy gun but it's like a pink/purple bow and arrow thing, that's the only gun hing he has and I've hidden it away!
I'd like to talk to the school again about that, but I don't know what I should say. I think barging in to the principal's office is a little bit too much? Should I start having a conversation with MRs B tomorrow? (it's MRs A's day off tomorrow).