A couple of week ago, I was told a couple of times by DS' teacher that DS was not on his good behaviour twice within two weeks (not sitting down when he was told to, he got distracted during story time and other school work, at recess he showed he was unpleasant after being told off by his teacher by throwing his hat around the playground and in the end he was not allowed to play and he got his reward chart suspended from the list.
This lasted for week, I think around the time before he got the his reward chart reinstated he was still upset knowing that he didn't have his reward chart, he told his classroom teacher that if she didn't put his reward chart back up he'd bring his toy gun (meaning he wants to show he is brave enough to threaten her to put it back up now or else). Well the mention of the gun probably shocked the entire staff and was brought up to the principal last week which was followed up by a call from the principal to myself today.
I already KNEW DS said that 'gun' word because DS told me the story himself one day after school. He said "i told mrs xx that if u didnt put my name back in the chart i'd bring my toy gun". To my horror, i replied" What did your teacher say then???".... he said to me "she said nothing".
DS always tells me his daily stories at school and he is good at recapping his school activities. So I said that to the principal that I was already aware and it was DS himself who told me that! I told him DS was actually referring it to his toy gun but the meaning behind it is still scary and I'm afraid that might happen again considering that who knows how many times he'd get upset over things like that throughout his life and might do it for real!!
DS isn't particularly a polite, shy or naive boy. He is quite active with a stubborn personality but he is never rude, doesn't know any swear words, and doesn't watch any violence (he hates bloody scenes if that happens to come out on TV for a sec). It is so unfortunate that he knows that guns can hurt and threaten people. We hardly watch TV at home and his favourite in ipad is watching lego reviews and this annoying US youtube channel that the whole family review unnecessarily many toys which DS always requests me to buy those toys for him (I ignore him lol).
I feel bad for his school now that we seem like a bad family. I know they are very understanding and he is only in Kindy. To be honest, he is a better boy at school because he thrives in the routine at school. At home he only has little routines, because it's mostly our fault that we never implement good routines inside the house and thus I always have troubles directing him at home (initially I wanted to give him lots of freedom at home, but I didnt realise that young kids thrive better in good routines). I think it's because of our lack of routines and discipline that occasionally DS does silly thing at school thinking he could get away with it.
Anyway, whilst I can handle DS not to repeat the same mistake again, but I just want to know how many parents out there who in their lives have dealt with serious concerns at school? Never in my wildest dreams that one day I'd get summoned to the school seeing my own child branded as violent.
Feel like want to dig a hole and hide, but life must go on and learn from our past mistakes. . Just want to add, the school we go to actually have great parent-teacher communication system, so I really appreciate that they got in touch with me in regards to DS's situation. It's better to know something than not knowing at all. I take this as a chance to work together to educate my kid together. However, I think I should still be worried though that a 5 year old can casually 'threaten' someone