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    If you guys are very close, do you ever chastise each others children? Maybe you could try a few "hey, don't put his toy up there, that's mean", "don't shut the door on the babies, you can see through the glass that they are crying" type things within earshot of the parents so that they know exactly what their child is doing but without you coming across as dobbing?
    And then next time the mum brings up her behaviour, discuss maybe some professional help, ie psych, paed, may be helpful?

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    Three scenarios are running through my mind:
    1) you are making some accurate observations however are reading far too much into the girls intentions. The parents know there is an issue and are working on it in private.
    2) you are on the right case - parents are oblivious though (not likely IMO - the parents would know if their child is regularly being malicious).
    3) the truth lies somewhere in between.

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    is she an only child ? perhaps she is jealous of the other kids being around, and perhaps is annoyed it is taking the attention away from her ? So she gets them into trouble, or makes them upset, so that she feels better about herself ?

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Three scenarios are running through my mind:
    1) you are making some accurate observations however are reading far too much into the girls intentions. The parents know there is an issue and are working on it in private.
    2) you are on the right case - parents are oblivious though (not likely IMO - the parents would know if their child is regularly being malicious).
    3) the truth lies somewhere in between.
    I think the first 10, 15 times she displayed subtle, malicious behaviour people would write it off as legitimately accidental, but after a while you subconsciously start watching her and I could see it was deliberate, subtle, but not accidental. And yeah perhaps I'm reading too much into it. I don't understand her behaviour, so perhaps it's not as sinister as I'm making out. I saw her enjoying watching the toddler in distress trying to get the toy, perhaps I misinterpreted it. I really don't think the parents are aware of her malicious behaviour, because, like I said, she is quite clever at hiding it and ensuring it can be just regarded as kids being kids type of behaviour.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 4LeafClover View Post
    is she an only child ? perhaps she is jealous of the other kids being around, and perhaps is annoyed it is taking the attention away from her ? So she gets them into trouble, or makes them upset, so that she feels better about herself ?
    Yes she is an only child and I do think she gets very jealous of other kids.

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    Child psychologist. Couceling.

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    Hmm I wouldn't throw around sociopath and murderer in the making, but odd yes. I often see selfish kids with parents who don't see it all.

    I would not jump into into the you need to see a psychologist talk, first I would call out to the child "don't do that" "now that's not very nice you hurt x's feelings" "excuse me that is not acceptable" at gatherings, perhaps the parents become more aware.

    It could very well be that something is wrong and the child needs help in a social setting. I wouldn't be so quick to jump to what the child's intentions are, this is something we just can't know.

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    Personally I think it's really harsh to be saying things like murder in the making etc, she's only 8....

    To me, it's sounds like a control and jealously thing. As an only child maybe she stills struggles socially. Her parents need to dig a little deeper into why she is displaying this behaviour. I think if your that close with the parents and genuinely want to help a friendly and honest conversation would go a long way. Maybe ask some questions about her behaviour and offer some advice while making it clear your intentions are coming from a place of wanting to help them rather than not wanting to socialise with them anymore. As parents we all need support sometimes and often can't see what others can. I think this situation calls for a good friend to support another friend and her child 😊

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