she sounds like a little sociopath in the making. I didn't want to post that off the bat but it was the first thought that came to me after reading your post OP. now I see others think the same so I feel ok saying it.
she definitely sounds as though she lacks empathy for others and gets off on torturing other kids.
I'd be very concerned if this was my child!
During the years you have been socializing have any of the adults (yourself and DH included) said anything to the child? Or just watch while she bullies other children?
If no-one says anything then it's a bit rude to suggest a psychologist off the bat. Maybe ask the mum how she is going, you've noticed some kids aren't comfortable around xyz and that must be stressful. Ask if the mum (or dad) needs anything. Maybe the child has a special need and is receiving treatment. Who knows.
Try not to blow things out of proportion (mass murderer in the making etc) before you've had a chat with the parents especially if you've been letting behavior you've witnessed slide to date.
The social issues you describe could be a result of Aspergers/Autism Spectrum Disorder. Girls present very differently to boys and often they don't get diagnosed (if at all) till much later on as the signs are more subtle. They tend to struggle to make/keep friends for many of the reasons you describe.
I would suggest an appointment with a Developmental Paediatrician as a first assessment (will need a GP referral to get to the Paed). If it is Autism then the Paed can help with referrals to an appropriate health provider.
Last edited by Xanthic; 14-03-2016 at 16:19.
She can be quite sneaky and clever sometimes, hurting kids in a way which could easily be passed off as an accident. I watched as she deliberately changed the direction she was walking in and "accidentally" knocked into a baby playing on the floor making her cry. I know she did it deliberately, but I think if I tried to say that to her parents they would think I was a bit mad.
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