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    Hi! I'm just wondering if anyone has any experience with the situation I'm in? I had 2 children, v births, but 20 & 22 years ago. First labour was over 24 hours, and I ended up having an epidural. Second birth was also long, but apart from some gas, no interventions. My new DH & I are now 34 weeks pregnant, and I'm faced with the choice of vb or c-section. Also, it's taken us 2 years of IVF to fall pregnant, so I just want to do what I can to deliver a healthy baby. I've had a good pregnancy, no problems, but I'm scared of going over term & stillbirth. My OB thinks I could go vb, but is happy to do c-section if I choose. He also said he could induce at 39 weeks to ensure I don't go over. Anyway, we did our parenting course at the hospital on the weekend, and I'm not sure I like the idea of being induced - it sounds as though if your baby's not ready, it can be quiet hard & even lead to an emergency c-section, which I'd like to avoid. And even though I'm booked in for a c-section, I'm nervous about having a full on surgery. I'm also worried I'm not fit enough to go through a long labor at my age.
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    I haven't been in your shoes but I can see why you're worried about induction or c/s. However, if it was me, I'd avoid a caesarian unless it was medically necessary.

    I had a spontaneous labour bang on 40wks with my first and it was over 35hrs and awful. My second was induced at 40+3 and although it took a while for labour to get going, I wasn't pressured into surgery and ended up have an amazing normal birth (with epidural).

    There's no magic answer, you have to do what you're most comfortable with.

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    Also, most hospitals are pretty accommodating to worried mums - mine said I could come in for daily monitoring if I was nervous about going over. You could also give yourself up to 40wks to go naturally and then consider induction at that point. You don't have to decide now.

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    Thanks @Cue , and advice is helpful. My main worry with a natural birth is my age I guess.

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    You have to do what is right for you and what you feel most comfortable with.
    I was 40 when I had my second child and had a terrific, vaginal birth at 41+3. Induction can start a cascade of intervention and although many women report terrific inductions many more report no such positive birth stories, I'm in the second group for my first baby. With induction you're on a clock and if you're body doesn't progress according to a text book then they will step things up. The earlier the induction, the more likely it will end in an emergency c-sect. Just because you're due date passes is not a reason to panic. You can be monitored to check baby is comfortable.
    Best of luck with everything.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Petal40 View Post
    Thanks @Cue , and advice is helpful. My main worry with a natural birth is my age I guess.
    The main thing is that this is not your first birth at your age. Your body has done this before... twice and successfully.

    Have faith in you and your own body.

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    You've had 2 successful vaginally births. That speaks volumes in your body's ability to birth a baby. Even though it was 20/22 yrs ago, your body remembers.

    It's likely an induction will be recommended at 39 weeks for "advanced maternal age". This is because we know that once you're over a certain age, the placenta can start to deteriorate/become less functional earlier.

    As for your caesarean, what is the indication? From your OP, there's no obvious medical indication for a caesarean. My *personal* thoughts are that I would avoid a caesarean unless medically necessary for the safety of me/my baby. My *professional* thoughts are that you need to do what works for you.

    I totally get that your IVF baby has taken 2 years to come to you and is precious to you and your DH, but unless there are external factors affecting your pregnancy, it's not a high risk pregnancy from IVF alone. I wouldn't use this as any reasoning for your decision making.

    I would have a good chat with your DH and talk about what *you* want from your labour/birth and beyond. Try to think past the birth and think of the first, say, 6 weeks. What will it be like if you've had a booked caesarean, vaginal birth, emergency caesarean. How would each of these impact on your immediate postnatal period? How long is your DH off work after bub? Will you have other practical help once bub is born? Only you can make the decision about what is right for you and your family.

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    Quote Originally Posted by M'LadyEm View Post
    You've had 2 successful vaginally births. That speaks volumes in your body's ability to birth a baby. Even though it was 20/22 yrs ago, your body remembers.

    It's likely an induction will be recommended at 39 weeks for "advanced maternal age". This is because we know that once you're over a certain age, the placenta can start to deteriorate/become less functional earlier.

    As for your caesarean, what is the indication? From your OP, there's no obvious medical indication for a caesarean. My *personal* thoughts are that I would avoid a caesarean unless medically necessary for the safety of me/my baby. My *professional* thoughts are that you need to do what works for you.

    I totally get that your IVF baby has taken 2 years to come to you and is precious to you and your DH, but unless there are external factors affecting your pregnancy, it's not a high risk pregnancy from IVF alone. I wouldn't use this as any reasoning for your decision making.

    I would have a good chat with your DH and talk about what *you* want from your labour/birth and beyond. Try to think past the birth and think of the first, say, 6 weeks. What will it be like if you've had a booked caesarean, vaginal birth, emergency caesarean. How would each of these impact on your immediate postnatal period? How long is your DH off work after bub? Will you have other practical help once bub is born? Only you can make the decision about what is right for you and your family.
    All good advice. Ideally I would love to go into spontaneous labour before I would have to make a decision about induction/c-section. Guess I just have to keep telling baby that so we are on the same page

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