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    Default What have you forgiven your OH for?

    I'm going through a bit of a rough patch in my relationship right now and am struggling with moving on and forgiving my OH for his poor decisions. Just curious what other people have forgiven their partners for and how they got over the hurt and moved on from it.

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    Subbing because I would like to know the answer to this too.

    Hugs Gracie's mum x

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    Quote Originally Posted by Foxy View Post
    Subbing because I would like to know the answer to this too.

    Hugs Gracie's mum x
    Right back at you!! It's certainly difficult to get past hurt feelings and move on. I tend to dwell and over think which is even worse!!

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    Putting his mother and brother's needs and wants before mine and the kids.

    He is more aware now of not behaving this way.

    I was so hurt. For me, and our children.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cicho View Post
    Putting his mother and brother's needs and wants before mine and the kids.

    He is more aware now of not behaving this way.

    I was so hurt. For me, and our children.
    My OH is like that, in the respect that he will only become aware of his actions/behaviour AFTER the fact!! Too late once the hurts already been done.

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    Anyone else?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gracie's Mum View Post
    Anyone else?
    What did your DH do?

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    I did forgive my ex dh for so much!

    Don't quote me.... I will probably delete, as I hate everyone knowing how weak I am, how much of a doormat I am.. But I get the feeling from your post that your dh has done something that you know is bad and you're trying to decide if you should forgive.. I have no idea if this will help you or not...

    Some examples....
    He quit his job and still left the house every day, pretending to go to work, never telling me he had quit and was hiding out. I suspected and called him out on it. He denied denied denied then finally fessed up. All the while I was living and spending as normal! Racking up debt I couldn't afford to pay back! I forgave him!

    He enrolled in a course, made me pay all the fees and buy the books on my credit card. Then did nothing! Nothing! Didn't even read the first chapter of the first text book. Said it wasn't what he wanted to do after all. I forgave him.

    He set up online dating accounts and had emotional affairs! I forgave him!

    He lied, cheated and blamed mental illness, I forgave him!

    He moved us clear across the country, twice, and each time he hated it, wasn't happy, wasn't prepared to give the new towns a chance. He abandoned the children and I. He just left us, no money, no income, couldn't afford to stay couldn't afford to move. He then decided he was sorry and wanted to come home. I forgave him and let him come back.

    He changed the Internet banking password so I couldn't get access to any money to feed the children. I nearly starved to death (literally!) as I was using all the money I had to feed the children. I forgave him.

    Forgiving him never got me anywhere. Love doesn't conquer all. Some people are just bad, selfish and mean. No matter how hard I tried. No matter what I was willing to forgive. It didn't change the outcome. I was so bitter and angry and out of love with him by the end, I didn't even care.

    He researched and made a plan of how he was going to murder me and our children! I didn't and never will forgive him.

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    Default What have you forgiven your OH for?

    Holy hell. You are one strong woman to endure all that. Well done for finally walking away. X
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