I laid out my "terms and conditions" to him on Thurs night. Told him I'll go to counselling with an open mind and heart though I'm not promising anything as neither of us can say what will happen/be the end result.
I also told him he needed to go to counselling on his own (back to the Psychologist he was seeing a few years ago and whom he liked when he had a flare up with his back...It was covered by Workcover at the time) and that I still wanted him to move out as I needed/wanted my own space plus things were bound to get heated in counselling from time to time and I didn't want that spilling over in front of DD which would be sure to happen if he still lived here.
Plus it will be easier for us both to move on if counselling doesn't achieve a reconciliation with neither of us, especially DD, having to go through him packing up and leaving the house a second time. To his credit, he agreed even though I know given the choice, he'd want to stay but I'm definitely not up for that!!!
Ever since, he's gone on the "charm offensive" buying me flowers, helping out more around the house with chores, spending more time with DD etc which all is rather lovely, don't get me wrong, but it's going to take a lot more than flowers and suddenly turning into "Sadie the cleaning lady" to fix this mess and I'm not really sure if that's what I want to be honest.
I think I'll know the answer once he's gone and we start counselling. DD is doing really well too She's been walking independently for the last 2 weeks but has really increased the length/amount she can walk in this last week. Yesterday we took her to a "Picnic with the Easter Bunny" at the local shopping centre and she walked everywhere and only fell down on the odd occasion
ETA- He's going to see his GP tomorrow/Tues arvo to get a Mental Health Plan organised so he can start sessions with the Psychologist asap.