Precious40 is that for a FET? I was just told to expect CD17-19 for transfer...
@Charlie74 I was checking FET meds today and had thought I might stay on Nitro-Dur and Trental as the migraines have subsided and that way I'd be set for the FET (as I was to stay on them if I'd had a transfer). Wazza has taken me off them both (at least until AF) and this made me think of you, as I think I read in one of your posts that you've been on Nitro-Dur for 5 months? I just thought I'd mention it as I know what a tough time you are having with your lining and whilst my lining is okay, it's not amazing. (I'd thought staying on Nitro-Dur might help it...)
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@Gagingi - that's great that they came good on day 6! I hate the layover from day 5 to 6 - day 5 they tell you nothing to biopsy and you think the cycle is a bust and then day 6 you get some to test. Such a relief that the cycle isn't a bust and you can be hopeful about it.
Wow what a day in here! @Tahli I'm so excited for you!! Can't wait to see those 2 magical lines!
@winsor yesterday bought back so many memories for me when I was in the exact same shoes, I felt so sad and really felt your grief. My beautiful dad had died about 6 weeks before it (I think the baby died around the same time weirdly)so it just felt like everything was crashing down on me. We got drunk the night we found out, I was so heart broken I needed to escape and it helped a little, but only for a short while. Then you wake up and it's still there. I didn't do FB but I did send a big txt to all my gf's from school who have been close friends for a long time, and the hard thing is with them all is that they all have kids and all had no trouble conceiving. None of them. I too felt like I wanted to share the news that we did have a baby but it didn't make it. For people to know that, it felt important to me. I did get to tell my dad before he died so he went knowing we were pregnant which was nice, he never got to know the sad ending. I guess when you had your scan and things were behind I felt really worried for you, as measuring a week behind is not good when you know the dates. But I just wanted to believe that your story would be different. It's crushing, I know that in time it does get easier but I just wanted to reach out to you and say that I feel your pain and know what you're going through. I hope each day gets a little bit brighter xxx
@BlondeinBrisvegas it sounds like you are doing the right thing, separating with your partner. I think the counselling is a good idea too and if you go into it with an open mind then you can probably work through a lot of stuff together and then move forward at the end of it all in whatever way you need to/want to. I do feel for your dp with the chronic pain, it must be hard living with that and no wonder he's become angry and intolerant. And for you having to live with it too, because I think us women will often be more proactive working through health stuff, or doing things to improve something about ourselves. Men seem to want to just block it out and try to forget about it. Obviously when it's taking over your life that's not going to work. having your own space to think and live without feeling the frustration of him will be great for you and whatever happens at counselling can stay there and you can come home to peace. Having a good relationship is important when you're sharing parenting with your daughter, I think even if you do stay apart it will be really beneficial for her to have two loving parents that are good to one another, even if they can't be together.
@Gagingi that's fabulous news! Love the turn around story, God we need a few of those in here don't we.
@Tahli any more tests yet???
thanks @tuxcat. sorry it brought back sad memories for you too. I'm having lots of crying episodes on and off. feel a bit better now after a nap, and it's been nice to see the support from friends so I think that's helping. a few of my female friends are telling me of similar experiences. I called the hospital to see if I could get a picture from the scan yesterday. at first they said they didn't give out scan pics until about 20 weeks or so (something) but they put me through to the sonographers and the guy felt sorry for me and printed a pic from the machine so I went to collect it this afternoon. I'm still taking my pessaries - I don't want to stop them whilst I know the bub is still alive, even if barely so. I want to keep supporting it until it goes to sleep. I don't think this will delay the inevitable but it's keeping me going a bit knowing I need to keep supporting the baby whilst she's still here. I hope you're feeling a bit better now. I'm glad your Dad knew you were pregnant - that would be a special feeling
@winsor this may not be helpful but my last m/c was pretty much like yours. Bub was still alive for a few weeks but didn't grow even 1mm in those few weeks. I decided to go off prog to not prolong the inevitable but it took weeks to start and then dragged on for about six weeks I reckon because the sac was still in there. I now believe that poor little Bub may have been ok but my high ANA was attacking him/her. If I knew then what I know now I would have been on prednisone. Have you been tested for immune or ANA issues? Sorry I can't remember. My thoughts are with you - I remember how hard it was.
thanks @JulieMalooley, so far the bub's grown 5mm from the first scan just over a week ago. which is not much, I know but I think it's trying. I haven't been tested. but I'm not sure how much use it is now to be tested since we can't do another cycle due to my age (& DP doesn't want to try DE at this point). I'll stay on the meds at least till the next scan in 2 weeks and see what's happening then. my midwife seemed to think I'd miscarry before then, so I'm not sure.
@gagini what fabulous news. So lovely to hear there's some hope again.
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