winsor? Remember the counsellor at RPA is there if you need her.
That's just what you want though hon. You don't need it to burn bright and then fizzle out - you want a baby tortoise, slow and steady. Or even better - TWO baby tortoises!
I'm just so thrilled for you. And I know you must be beside yourself with both happiness and anxiety right now, but I have a good feeling about this Everything is going just how it should be going. All is well.
Positive, positive, positive
Big hugs hon I think it's wonderful that you are still doing everything you can to support your bubba at this time. TBH I think I would be the same. As long as there is a HB there is life, and I know I would want to give that baby every bit of support I could, whether there was a chance at recovery or not.
I am hoping that when your little one goes home, it is not too difficult physically for you. I never got to HB stage as you know, in fact I never got to MC stage either. I chose to undergo a D&C and I am glad I did so as the Doctor said that physically I never would have let it go. "How appropriate" I thought at the time, because that is exactly how I felt emotionally too. I didn't want to let go. Well, I still don't.
I don't know if you've had a D&C before. Whilst there are risks involved I did not regret my choice to go that way in the end. I didn't want to draw things out any longer so if nothing else it got the physical recovery out of the way quite quickly. Emotionally, well, those scars never go away. I am still trying to heal but I will never, ever forget. Our babies leave little footprints on our hearts forever.
You have been so very, very brave throughout all of this and the fact that you can find joy for others at such a painful time speaks volumes as to your character, and why we all love you so. If there is anything at all that we can do to help ease your burden, please don't hesitate to reach out. If you want to chat privately, I (and I'm sure all of the other girls) are just a PM away.
Sending you and DH and your bubba huge hugs, and wishing you peace. You are all in our thoughts
Yeehaa @Tahli, that is a definite line congratulations ! Its normal to feel guilty because we want it so much for everyone else on this forum and we all deserve this. Stop drinking so much for gods sake !!
AFM, have my second 3D/4D scan today in an effort to get some not-so-squished face pics. Will post later. Had an awful dream last night that I was bleeding heavily and woke up stressed. This will just never feel safe until they are here and I STILL have to keep looking at my shadow's melon-shape when I go for my more and more infrequent walks. Its definitely the calm before the storm here as my DP says - still doesn't feel real and I still can't imagine us with babies. It's going to be a rude shock methinks when it finally happens.
I also have my hospital scan on Monday to get the lengths and weights again. Thats actually the one I'm looking forward to the most. By then they should be 38cm and over 1kg each
thanks everyone. yes, the midwife gave me a week off work/certificate. I told work and they said to take as much time as I need. I've just been doing a few hours here & there and checking emails to keep things going and it keeps me busy for a bit. I guess I'll see what happens over next 2 weeks until next scan and see if they think I should have d&c then or if it'll be natural. I read up on some other's experiences to see what to expect. if I used the LMP dates I was using at the start, we're still 8weeks 5days today (9weeks sun) so scan day was 8weeks3days, and bub was 7weeks1day then so still only a week behind as she was from the first scan + 2 days, so slowing, I think since sun/mon, but I don't think she was 2 weeks behind. it's good to hear other people's good news. for a moment I can forget what's happening and everything seems ok still
I guess so. I'm not sure if they'd help at this point as there's nothing we can do. I'll see how I feel next week & maybe goto the paid place. the midwife said to come back in 2 weeks, so I'm not sure she'd let me have another if I went back earlier. I think it's best we concentrate on supporting and saying goodbye now
@Precious40 Good Luck with the intrallipids Luv😊 Am sure all will go well👍
@JulieMalooley Have a drink of orange juice 30 mins to an hr before your scan to wake tgem up & get them moving or ekse get on all fours in the waiting room & start crawling around!!😉😁
@winsor Sending much love & hugs to you allxoxo
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