thanks @tuxcat. sorry it brought back sad memories for you too. I'm having lots of crying episodes on and off. feel a bit better now after a nap, and it's been nice to see the support from friends so I think that's helping. a few of my female friends are telling me of similar experiences. I called the hospital to see if I could get a picture from the scan yesterday. at first they said they didn't give out scan pics until about 20 weeks or so (something) but they put me through to the sonographers and the guy felt sorry for me and printed a pic from the machine so I went to collect it this afternoon. I'm still taking my pessaries - I don't want to stop them whilst I know the bub is still alive, even if barely so. I want to keep supporting it until it goes to sleep. I don't think this will delay the inevitable but it's keeping me going a bit knowing I need to keep supporting the baby whilst she's still here. I hope you're feeling a bit better now. I'm glad your Dad knew you were pregnant - that would be a special feeling
@winsor this may not be helpful but my last m/c was pretty much like yours. Bub was still alive for a few weeks but didn't grow even 1mm in those few weeks. I decided to go off prog to not prolong the inevitable but it took weeks to start and then dragged on for about six weeks I reckon because the sac was still in there. I now believe that poor little Bub may have been ok but my high ANA was attacking him/her. If I knew then what I know now I would have been on prednisone. Have you been tested for immune or ANA issues? Sorry I can't remember. My thoughts are with you - I remember how hard it was.
thanks @JulieMalooley, so far the bub's grown 5mm from the first scan just over a week ago. which is not much, I know but I think it's trying. I haven't been tested. but I'm not sure how much use it is now to be tested since we can't do another cycle due to my age (& DP doesn't want to try DE at this point). I'll stay on the meds at least till the next scan in 2 weeks and see what's happening then. my midwife seemed to think I'd miscarry before then, so I'm not sure.
@gagini what fabulous news. So lovely to hear there's some hope again.
Fwiw my mc was tested and shown to be a chromosomal abnormality-no. 22 to be exact, its the sad reality of being our age I guess.
That one was never tested for us but it was a DE baby so could have been ok. Can you get your hands on any prednisone just for the next couple of weeks? Sorry might be bad advice and I'm certainly not a dr.
I'm not sure. would that be able to revert the slowed heartrate though? I thought once that happened there wasn't much more that could be done. it was 108-111 when measured 6w3d and has fallen to 88 when measuring 7w1d
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