As his back's deteriorated and the pain has gotten worse over the last few years, his behaviour/depression or what have you has deteriorated along with it to the point he projects his anger/frustration from the pain onto me verbally...always snappy with me, or angry about everything..there's no joy in him. There are also other issues related to me feeling unappreciated for being a SAHM, major issues with our sex life because of his back, blah, blah, blah which ended up with us basically growing apart and me closing my heart to him because I just couldn't handle his BS anymore to cut a long story short.
Together just shy of 9 years. He's on the waiting list for an operation on his back (finally he's seen a surgical resident and scans have been ordered to check exactly where it is an how bad it is now so the head spinal surgeon can decide what operation would be best to do though who knows when it will happen at this point??).