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    Quote Originally Posted by Lolly99 View Post
    After we made decision to use donor eggs I was quite relieved and optimistic. Felt like I was finally in with a chance of pregnancy. Looking at CFC statistics being so high and the amount of young donors available made it seem possible. I don't feel disconnected at all, quite the opposite. While I will always be grateful to our donor I never think of these babies as not mine and sometimes I guess I forget that they are donor eggs.

    Yes! This! This is exactly how I feel about it. Now that our OE journey is at an end, I am sad of course but I feel relieved too. Relieved because we tried our absolute best, pushed my body to the limits, exhausted our finances and did everything we could to have our own baby.

    I am still carrying a deep-seated grief for the loss of Blossom. I doubt I will ever get over that loss. But now I finally I feel we can move on from all of that hurt and pain and grief and perhaps have a real chance of achieving the pregnancy that my body could not do by itself.

    Whether that be via donor eggs or embryos is not important to us. As far as we are both concerned, the possibility of a child by any means would be a miracle and we would be ever so grateful. For us, all options are on the table, and for the first time DH is actually talking about things and seems to have real optimistic hope for our future family. The OE journey was something we both felt we had to try. It didn't work so now we can move forward with a feeling that we did all we possibly could.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lolly99 View Post
    After we made decision to use donor eggs I was quite relieved and optimistic. Felt like I was finally in with a chance of pregnancy. Looking at CFC statistics being so high and the amount of young donors available made it seem possible. I don't feel disconnected at all, quite the opposite. While I will always be grateful to our donor I never think of these babies as not mine and sometimes I guess I forget that they are donor eggs. From the moment I got the BFP I knew they were mine. I look after them every day, eat right, take vitamins, rest etc. I'm taking care of them and without me and DH they wouldn't exist. Don't expect that to make sense to everyone just how I personally feel. @Tahli we need some good news here so get us that BFP in the next few days. @Windsor once again so sorry, hope your DP is home soon. @Blossom74 it's a hard decision and harder to say it out loud like you did today. Hopefully acceptance might be easier now. You will get you baby love no matter how you do it.
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    I feel exactly the same way about my little girl. It's funny too in that the scan pics she looks more like me than my donor or hubby! But she wouldn't be here if it wasn't for me nurturing her with my body and she will get all the love and cares she will ever need once she is out. I had a terrible childhood with my mother so if I can be a good mum that raises a healthy, well rounded girl that has a relationship with me where she feels loved and safe, then I will be a very happy mum. Whether she looks like me kinda pales in comparison to that.

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    @Blossom74 im sorry to hear your official bfn. I'm sure there will be alot of steps from here to DE or Dembryo and i really hope you know we will all be here for you every moment of every step. I really truly absolutely believe in nurture. Like @Chiefsgirl said mums come in all shapes and you will be fabulous. Xx

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    @winsor I am so sorry this is happening to you. I don't think anyone should have to experience the pain of losing something so precious and longed for. It's not fair. Hugs, hugs, hugs.

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    Re: the donor egg issue.
    Some of you will know that donor embryo's were my plan B if our last cycle didn't work out. My FS thought DH had some sperm DNA issues arising from previous medical treatment so we looked into Donor embryo's rather than eggs. When I was researching I found a great online group that used one clinic. Some included pictures of their donor embryo bubs that floored me. I could not believe how alike these babies were to their non genetic mothers. I am a total believer in the epigenetic thing now.

    I am probably a good advertisement for donor eggs if it comes to that. My OE journey has resulted in no embies good enough to do PGD testing. A twin pregnancy where we were given a 1:2 chance of trisomy 21... both turned out to be ok but one still didn't make it.
    I don't know about the bonding issue though. It is a personal thing and I admit that I feel a strong bond with my OE bub that I don't know would be the same with a DE.

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    Im a strong believer in epigenetics. I think the way it works is amazing.

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    I watched it today and was amazed at the ivf part of it. Firstly the fs was so sincere and actually made the test calls to the patients. Does that really happen? Also ive never been scanned on morning of epu. I really felt for the couple. Such desperation. I reckon she was early 40s.

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    I don't think most people know how terrible infertility is. I hate that these people are in such pain but it is good to have some more recognition. More recognition means more funding for research. More research (although it probably won't help us) will mean less pain for others in the future.
    So wish someone somewhere has already found an answer to our old eggs. Tomorrow the story comes out and the government immediately promises full funding for people needing the new treatment. Everyone gets pregnant first attempt. No miscarriages, no complications. Healthy bub every time.

    Ahh I can dream can't I.

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    @Blossom74 - glad you feel some relief about your decision to close the door on OE. You've given it a red hot go and it's a good decision to move on and invest your resources in DE.

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    @winsor thinking of you xx

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