Yes! This! This is exactly how I feel about it. Now that our OE journey is at an end, I am sad of course but I feel relieved too. Relieved because we tried our absolute best, pushed my body to the limits, exhausted our finances and did everything we could to have our own baby.
I am still carrying a deep-seated grief for the loss of Blossom. I doubt I will ever get over that loss. But now I finally I feel we can move on from all of that hurt and pain and grief and perhaps have a real chance of achieving the pregnancy that my body could not do by itself.
Whether that be via donor eggs or embryos is not important to us. As far as we are both concerned, the possibility of a child by any means would be a miracle and we would be ever so grateful. For us, all options are on the table, and for the first time DH is actually talking about things and seems to have real optimistic hope for our future family. The OE journey was something we both felt we had to try. It didn't work so now we can move forward with a feeling that we did all we possibly could.