Yes @Tahli that sounds about right 11dpo tonight. Good luck with the P-sticks. @BlondeinBrisvegas - its still so fresh in my mind how hard it was trying to separate with my ex DH stuck under the same roof as me for a while. Even though he left me, I went out (in misery and desperation) and met my current DP within about 4 weeks I reckon. I knew at the time it was just me desperate for some consolation and company and it helped to distract me a bit, but I was in a frucked up headspace and I 'knew' at the time that I wasn't going to stay with DP because I still loved my ex (turns out he grew on me). My ex and I still love each other, but its different now. We are really good friends and that's lucky because we still have to work together - but not in the same office anymore thankfully.
You need him out of the house. Its so emotionally draining being in that situation day in and day out when you are both so raw and sad. Yes, counselling would help to clear up a. your feelings and b. how to move on and stay friends and civil if that's the way it's going to be.
I guess I would ask you - when you say you love him still - do you 'love him', or are you 'in love' with him. There's a big difference. Over time my 'in love' with my ex has died off to just 'loving' him because it had to, or I would have gone insane with grief. I still can't believe I never saw it coming and I still don't think we tried hard enough to fix it - but he said at the time his love had died and he knew that wasn't going to change and I'm a strong believer in 'when the love is gone - its gone'. Mind you, we never had kids together so it was just too easy to separate. If DP hadn't come along so soon, we may have struggled on for 6 or 12 months but ultimately he was so unhappy it was not going to work. So, in short:
a. try counselling just to help you both move on one way or the other
b. do it with him living elsewhere as soon as you can organise it. Once he's out of the house your feelings towards him will become clearer.
Just my opinions...