Faithandhopelove I'm so sorry you had to listen to your insensitive "friend". Some people don't a clue. At least here with us you are safe from that kind of talk. Feel free to share with is anything. Big hugs xo
Yes agree no sentence should start with "at least" when referring to baby loss my Sister in law said the same thing to me when I had my blighted ovum "at least it happened early and you weren't further along" well fruck you too is what I say to that. Do you want me to punch "your friend" out at @Faithandhopeandlove I would be happy to do it how can some people say such things👿On another note how can some people be so bloody fertile a friend is having her third baby and she already has a Toddler and a 12 month old. She literally pops one out then gets up the sprout again the next month how is that fair 😡 There surely is no rhyme or reason is there.
@faithandhopelove - having been in a similar situation of grief and loss (my daughter was born at 28 weeks), I realised that people just don't know the right thing to say - they don't mean anything bad , they just don't know what the right thing is and some people feel uncomfortable so they just say something, anything. I had to remind myself at the time that they weren't trying to hurt me or make me feel worse. I could give a list of silly things people said - a few of my faves - it's gods will ( well I don't believe in God), these things happen to people who have the strength to cope with them ( great, glad I'm so strong) , it would be worse if you didn't already have a child ( no actually the grief is still real and acute despite that).
The grief is different for everyone, but you will come out the other side eventually. I did.
I think I know your friend She must be the same girl who told me after my MC that 'it's not like there was a proper baby anyway.' As you said hon, NFI.
It's very early on, O know, but if you feel that you need help I can really recommend SANDS. I contacted them, via email at first (because I didn't think at the time that I could have held my shiz together long enough to actually 'speak' about our loss) and they were just so supportive and understanding. Sadly, each of the girls there have been through similar things themselves and come out the other end to be able to offer those who follow this sad road their experience. Anyway, don't hesitate to get onto them love, they are great.
OK ladies, I am now officially POAS's
Today is only 7 days post 2 day transfer (or 9dpo).
According to the 3 day transfer notes (less 1 day, as mine was only a 2 day'er) today is the day where Baby Cakes should be continuing his/her implantation and the morula burying deeper into the lining.
As I expected, I got nothing on the test HCG is not meant to start going into the blood until Sunday.
But dammit, I couldn't hold out any longer
Well today is going to go one of two ways, if BFN a bottle of Vodka will be consumed and a few tears shed!
OR BFP! With much excitement & anxiety as its been 10 years TTC.
If it's a BFN we have 2 5d embies on ice that we wil Tx in May and that's it. Last round
@Lastround I don't know how you can hold of POAS by now I would just have to know. I wish you were in Townsville now I would personally deliver one to your door 😁and @Blossom74 you need to step away from the pee sticks. Just for a day or two. I hope we have two BFP's coming up ladies. Well three actually cause talhi's almost PUPO by now. So Jelly BUT I am only a month away too now. Time's tick,tick, ticking by.
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