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    Quote Originally Posted by faithandhopellove View Post
    Thanks @Blossom74. I had a friend call who is not known for her tact so feeling kind of rattled at the moment. There were lots of 'helpfull' suggestions like taking 1 cot back and asking for a sympathy refund because our baby had died and platitudes like "at least you'll have more time to spend with the remaing baby". Ugh. This lady had 4 kids all conceived within months of trying. No miscarriages, no complications and NFI.
    Anyway I had a look at some websites this afternoon which talked about losing one twin. There was lots of mention about anxiety for the other baby so it seems what I'm feeling is normal. I got onto a section on legalities of naming and funerals and started bawling again so that was the end of that. Just one step at a time is enough.
    Honestly why can't people just act like decent human beings!!! I'm angry on your behalf but I think we all have a friend or aquaintance like that. I'm so sorry you had to listen to any of it. It's bs when you are trying to just get through each day right now. Thinking of you x

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    Good luck @Tahli😀😀

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    Faithandhopelove I'm so sorry you had to listen to your insensitive "friend". Some people don't a clue. At least here with us you are safe from that kind of talk. Feel free to share with is anything. Big hugs xo

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    Yes agree no sentence should start with "at least" when referring to baby loss my Sister in law said the same thing to me when I had my blighted ovum "at least it happened early and you weren't further along" well fruck you too is what I say to that. Do you want me to punch "your friend" out at @Faithandhopeandlove I would be happy to do it how can some people say such things👿On another note how can some people be so bloody fertile a friend is having her third baby and she already has a Toddler and a 12 month old. She literally pops one out then gets up the sprout again the next month how is that fair 😡 There surely is no rhyme or reason is there.

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    @faithandhopelove - having been in a similar situation of grief and loss (my daughter was born at 28 weeks), I realised that people just don't know the right thing to say - they don't mean anything bad , they just don't know what the right thing is and some people feel uncomfortable so they just say something, anything. I had to remind myself at the time that they weren't trying to hurt me or make me feel worse. I could give a list of silly things people said - a few of my faves - it's gods will ( well I don't believe in God), these things happen to people who have the strength to cope with them ( great, glad I'm so strong) , it would be worse if you didn't already have a child ( no actually the grief is still real and acute despite that).

    The grief is different for everyone, but you will come out the other side eventually. I did.

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    Quote Originally Posted by faithandhopellove View Post
    Thanks @Blossom74. I had a friend call who is not known for her tact so feeling kind of rattled at the moment. There were lots of 'helpfull' suggestions like taking 1 cot back and asking for a sympathy refund because our baby had died and platitudes like "at least you'll have more time to spend with the remaing baby". Ugh. This lady had 4 kids all conceived within months of trying. No miscarriages, no complications and NFI.
    Anyway I had a look at some websites this afternoon which talked about losing one twin. There was lots of mention about anxiety for the other baby so it seems what I'm feeling is normal. I got onto a section on legalities of naming and funerals and started bawling again so that was the end of that. Just one step at a time is enough.


    I think I know your friend She must be the same girl who told me after my MC that 'it's not like there was a proper baby anyway.' As you said hon, NFI.

    It's very early on, O know, but if you feel that you need help I can really recommend SANDS. I contacted them, via email at first (because I didn't think at the time that I could have held my shiz together long enough to actually 'speak' about our loss) and they were just so supportive and understanding. Sadly, each of the girls there have been through similar things themselves and come out the other end to be able to offer those who follow this sad road their experience. Anyway, don't hesitate to get onto them love, they are great.


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    @Lastround, good luck with you BT results today!


    @Tahli, happy travels! Now go and bring us home those babies

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    OK ladies, I am now officially POAS's


    Today is only 7 days post 2 day transfer (or 9dpo).


    According to the 3 day transfer notes (less 1 day, as mine was only a 2 day'er) today is the day where Baby Cakes should be continuing his/her implantation and the morula burying deeper into the lining.


    As I expected, I got nothing on the test HCG is not meant to start going into the blood until Sunday.


    But dammit, I couldn't hold out any longer

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    Well today is going to go one of two ways, if BFN a bottle of Vodka will be consumed and a few tears shed!
    OR BFP! With much excitement & anxiety as its been 10 years TTC.
    If it's a BFN we have 2 5d embies on ice that we wil Tx in May and that's it. Last round

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    @Lastround I don't know how you can hold of POAS by now I would just have to know. I wish you were in Townsville now I would personally deliver one to your door 😁and @Blossom74 you need to step away from the pee sticks. Just for a day or two. I hope we have two BFP's coming up ladies. Well three actually cause talhi's almost PUPO by now. So Jelly BUT I am only a month away too now. Time's tick,tick, ticking by.

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