@MamaKes April donor egg cycle (first)
How many of us are looking at starting a fresh egg donor cycle in the next 3 months or so (even if you're doing a final OE cycle first - not that I want to jinx that at all!!)?
Possibly seeking ED - final OE cycle
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It's hard, isn't it? I remember when I first started IVF the Nurse told me the greatest toll we would pay would be on our relationship. We're doing ok I suppose - we've lost a lot of the closeness we once had but we are still solid enough. If DH had elected to not be financially supportive of this journey it would have been another matter entirely though. I don't reckon there would be a single person on this board who could honestly say that IVF hasn't changed their relationship though.
Last edited by Blossom74; 21-03-2016 at 06:34.
That is actually interesting @Tahli. It certainly brings it in as an option. I know whatever I do that this will be the last hurrah for us. I mean, we're at the point where we are trying to go into debt for IVF - something we both swore we'd never do. I guess that's why I'm not in an almighty rush to publish my ad yet. I just want to think about everything carefully before I jump in.
Last edited by Blossom74; 21-03-2016 at 07:00.
Yup, definitely moi. And it's funny, I had never considered using a donor before yet here I am. I sort of feel like I'm letting the Over 40's team down a bit. I mean, I was wanting to be a bit of a poster-child for the cause, you know? "Yes! You can have a baby over 40!"
Well, maybe you can. There are women who do it successfully, my Mother being a prime example having her fourth child at 45 years of age. But I think for a woman over 40 to have her first child, using her own eggs, is probably quite rare. I wish it was me. I tried my best. But I think now, in hindsight, the only way forward for me is to use the help of a donor.
As to the first part of your post hon, I say BUGGER THEM! They don't like it for one reason and one reason only - you've brought down their success rates. To hell with that though! You have every right to seek further assistance. You are entitled to try as many damn times as you like! It is YOUR body and YOUR dream of a baby, and YOUR money. If they don't want to help you, find someone else who bl00dy will! That is just the sort of BS attitude I hate in fertility clinics....
Rant over, lol
With respect to the second part of your post, yes, I suppose you're right. I do remember saying "I need to give this one last go for peace of mind." I guess if it had been successful I never would have regretted it, lol. I'm just bummed about the money
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